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Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

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Behavioural Characteristics of FASD

Behaviour problems with individuals with FASD are a major concern for parents and schools:

  • learning disabilities

– academic

– ADD / ADHD

– speech and language

– information processing

– patterning problems

  • poor impulse control
  • inability to relate behaviour to consequences
  • no sense of connection to societal rules
  • poor short term memory
  • inconsistent knowledge base
  • poor personal boundaries
  • confusion under pressure
  • difficulty grasping abstract concepts
  • inability to manage his/her anger
  • inability to manage other’s anger
  • poor judgement
  • stubborn

These behaviours can be quite overwhelming to the child, parents and teachers.

It means that everyday there are problems, punishments, and frustrations.

The problems start at birth and frequently increase with age and are resistant to regular types of discipling and counselling.

School usually emphasizes the child’s problems.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

“We were so naive. We thought our son’s poor behaviour was just a phase he was passing through. Thankfully you led us ‘out of the wilderness'”

(N.S. – London)