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This 6 hour course has been presented throughout Ontario to numerous school boards (public, separate & private), children's mental health treatment centres, camp counsellors, First Nation reserves, daycare centres, community colleges, Children's Aid Societies, etc. It is especially relevant to educational assistants assigned - [Medications for ADHD and Future Substance Abuse](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/medications-for-adhd-and-future-substance-abuse/) - ADHD MEDICATIONS AND FUTURE SUBSTANCE ABUSE I am frequently asked by parents of children taking stimulant medications for ADHD if they are at an increased risk for future substance abuse. Research suggests that children with ADHD do have a tendency towards future abuse problems at a rate 2 to 3 times that of children without - [Have ADD/ADHD ? - You Are in Good Company !](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/have-addadhd-you-are-in-good-company/) - The following people are reported to have ADD /ADHD ! Beethoven Elvis Bill Gates Henry Ford Robin williams Socrates Mozart Winston Churchill Alexander Graham Bell Picasso Napoleon Jim Carey John Lennon Howie Mandel J.F.K. Bill Cosby Louis Pasteur Michael Jordan A diagnosis of ADD /ADHD is not something one would wish for, but - [What Do Most Doctors Say About ADHD ?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-do-most-doctors-say-about-adhd/) - Quotes from the medical majority: "To suggest that ADHD is a fraud, that somehow children are being abused by these treatments, is really an outrage because for these kids to not get treated is really the greatest abuse and neglect" (Harold Koplewicz M.D.) "A disorder doesn't have to have a blood test to be valid. - [Possible Psychosocial Side Effects of ADHD Meds](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/possible-psychosocial-side-effects-of-adhd-meds/) - Complicating the decision as whether use stimulant medications for ADHD are the possible psychosocial side effects ! lower self esteem "external" cause for success or failure disowning or responsibility stigmatization by peers family issues remain unresolved need for parenting and teaching changes are buried - [The Top Tantrum Triggers](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-top-tantrum-triggers/) - The Top Tantrum Triggers shopping trains, planes and automobiles places of worship waiting rooms restaurants bedtime transitions being late the "NO" word - [What are the Different Brand Names of the Medications](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-are-the-different-brand-names-of-the-medications/) - ADHD medications come in two different types : stimulant and non stimulant. There are 2 types of active drugs used in STIMULANT medications: 1. Methylphenidate: - Ritalin - Biphenton - Concerta - Metadate CD - Daytrana (skin patch) - Focalin 2. Amphetamine - Dexedrine - Adderall - Vyvance Trials with these medications have proven to - [Research on Teens Attitudes](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/research-on-teens-attitudes/) - Reginald Bibby (a noted Canadian sociologist from the University of Lethbridge) has been traccking the thoughts and beliefs of Canadian teenagers for nearly 30 years. His findings are encouraging as the majority of teens: are not causing undue problems at home have compassion are not in extreme turmoil are honest and polite are - ["Doc, I want you to evaluate my 13 year old son"](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/doc-i-want-you-to-evaluate-my-13-year-old-son/) - Parent: "Doc, I want you to evaluate my 13 year old son." Doc: "OK, he's suffering from a transient psychosis with an intermettent rage disorder, punctuated by episodic radical mood swings, but his prognosis is good for a full recovery." Parent: "What does all that mean?" Doc: "He's 13." Parent: "How can you - [A Caution about Concerta](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/a-caution-about-concerta/) - There is a generic form of Concerta available that is proving to be not as effective or safe as the brand named product. The long acting release mechanism is different making it shorter acting and the generic form can be crushed into a powder and snorted like cocaine whereas the brand named form cannot - [What are the Side Effects of Stimulant Medications?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-are-the-side-effects-of-stimulant-medications/) - These are the reported possible side effects of stimulant medications. Certainly not all are likely to happen and those that do may subside in time. decreased appetite weight loss failure to grow insomnia dizziness & drowsiness increase in motor and/or vocal tics increased heart rate increased blood pressure nausea headaches allergic reactions nervousness - [City of Ottawa Recreation Department](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/dry-bed-training/) - Thanks to the City of Ottawa's Inclusive Recreation Department for the invitation to share ideas about behaviour management with 60 counsellors in their summer camp program. This camp serves over 200 individuals between the ages of 18 and 50 years old with a wide range of disabilities. This camp provides opportunities for the participants to - [Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 3)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tactics-for-temper-tantrums-part-3/) - The Forced Exit Forced exit involves removing the child from the scene of the "crime". It works best if the parent firmly but calmly takes the child to his room and announces that his behaviour would be best suited to being alone. Thus, he should remain there until he feels he can settle down - [Are ADHD Medications Effective?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/are-adhd-medications-effective/) - The first line stimulant medications for ADHD are among the most effective treatments in all medicine. Good peer reviewed, independent studies show that they are effective with approximately 80% of individuals with ADHD. Positive Effects decreased motor activity decreased aggression decreased defiance less impulsive fewer mistakes grades improve more compliant improved relationships improved - [A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/a-guided-tour-of-adhd/) - This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and treatments associated with one of society's most common childhood disorders. ADHD can affect every area of a child's life producing feelings of failure, learning difficulties, inability to make and keep friends and stressful relationships within families. Suitable for parents, teachers, daycare staff, social workers, etc. - [Behaviour Management (now available online)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/behaviour-management-2/) - This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you to the skills, techniques and strategies to assess and manage a wide range of behaviour problems (eg. aggression, destruction. noncompliance, swearing, school problems, tantrums, sibling quarreling, etc.). You will learn how to determine the underlying causes of the inappropriate behaviours, develop logical interventions and establish - ["A Guided Tour of ADD/ADHD"- (now available online)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/a-guided-tour-of-add-adhd-online-course/) - Behavioural Management Systems is pleased to add this course to its online offerings. This 3 hour course presents the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and treatments associated with one of society's most common childhood disorders. The course comes complete with a comprehensive 25 page guidebook and a Certificate of Training. Phone or e-mail for more info. - [Living With an Attachment Disordered Child (online format available)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/living-with-an-attachment-disordered-child/) - A child with attachment disorder is a deeply wounded child who was denied the very basics of life, love and protection in the early years. They have often been victims of abuse, neglect, abandonment and sexual exploitation. Though they can be removed from the source of their maltreatment, they take with them the invisible internal - ["DOOM" by Lori - age 15](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/doom-by-lori-age-15/) - DOOM by Lori - age 15 The only visible light Into darkness The only relief is Cut into my flesh As deep as sadness Pain passes away But I will be left with the scars From the past I hear vividly the sounds The screams. I am but a bug Invisible to life - [ADHD Medication](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/adhd-medication/) - It is an understandable reaction for parents when a doctor prescribes ADHD medications. There are so many questions and the doctor has so little time to answer them. Is the medication safe? How will we know if it is working? Are there side effects? Will my child feel like a zombie? In the - [Biochemical Approach to Treating ADD/ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/biochemical-approach-to-treating-addadhd/) - One of the treatment approaches to helping a child with ADD/ADHD is biochemical or pills. The medical community by in large endorses the theory that ADD/ADHD is caused by an imbalance of the neurotransmitters in the brain. The treatment frequently recommended by doctors is to give the child a pill that will bring the neurotransmitters - [Tactics for Tantrums (part 1)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tactics-for-tantrums-part-1/) - My next several posts will offer ideas about handling toddler's tantrums. They are based on the premise that some tantrum throwing will and should occur and that our job as parents is to make it as painless as possible for all participants. 1. The Ignore Tactic To use the ignore tactic the parent totally ignores - [What Does a Parent of a Child With ADHD Look Like ?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-does-a-parent-of-a-child-with-adhd-look-like/) - Sometimes like this: frustrated stressed out frightened angry exhausted discouraged burned out Parents often feel blame, guilt and shame. They frequently believe that they have somehow "messed up" their child - [Sound Familiar ?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/sound-familiar/) - "Mom, Dad, Jason punched me!" "I did not! Patrick took my Game Boy, and I just put out my hand a little to get it back" "Mom, Jason's lying! I didn't take his stupid Game Boy!" "Dad, Patrick's kicking me! Tell him to stop it! Ow! Mom, Dad, Jason's pulling my hair!" Sibling quibbling is - [FASD - Late Adolescence (17 - 22)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-late-adolescence-17-22/) - The main goals : move out of home establish his own life learn to cope with societal rules - increase personal expectation with diminishing parental support (lots of teens without FASD have trouble with this) Trouble Areas: undereducated poor money management loneliness lack of boundaries poor judgement He may lack the emotional and / or - [FASD- Early Adolescence - guidelines for teachers](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-early-adolescence-guidelines-for-teachers/) - the FASD adolescent still requires consistency, strong academic supports, and patience hormones are present but without the boundaries & social skills the teen may appear to be functioning higher than he really is sequencing problems may still persist teen will require immediate feedback other emotional problems may coexist - depression - eating disorder - suicide - [FASD - Late Childhood (aged 8 - 12)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-late-childhood-aged-8-12/) - The main developmental task for children of this age is to develop a sense of industry. Family stresses are likely to increase as FASD children can be exhausting. Caregivers will benefit from counselling and respite care may become necessary. Peer and sibling relationships can become more difficult because the child may have legitimate difficulty with - [Teen Issues # 4 - Boundaries](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/teen-issues-3/) - All teenagers want the freedom to do what they want when they want. They need to learn that freedom is earned and that they can gain freedom by demonstrating responsibility. Adolescence is the time in life when kids are supposed to learn this lesson. By the same token, parents need to be able - [Teenagers](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/teenagers/) - Between 1996 and 2016, the proportion of girls and women in the US taking antidepressant medications more than doubled, from 7.5 percent to 16.4 percent; more than 1 in 8 females in the US now takes antidepressant medication. Boys and girls are both having problems, but they're having different problems. Many of the boys who - [FASD - early adolescence 13-17 (life's challenges)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-early-adolescence-13-17-lifes-challenges/) - SEXUALITY hormones are probably working fine problems frequently emerge because of lack of boundaries, lack of impulse control, inability to link behaviour and consequences, need for acceptance, social isolation often leads to sexual activity with predictable consequences eg. STD's, pregnancy, exploitation, easy victimization DRUGS AND ALCOHOL often exploited by older teens & adults substance abuse - [ADHD - A Frustrated Parent](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/adhd-a-frustrated-parent/) - The following is a quote from a parent that is both very frustrated and at the same time very concerned about her son. "I can't take it anymore! We scream all morning to get out of the house. Homework takes hours. If I don't help him with his work, he's so disorganized that he'll never - [How Does It Feel to Have ADHD?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/how-does-it-feel-to-have-adhd/) - The following quotes are from children who have ADHD: "It's like being in a dark room where objects are scattered around to trip you. You don't have a flashlight, but everyone else does. You trip around the room, bumping into things, until you finally learn the layout. Then someone moves you to a new room - [How Can Behavioural Management Systems Help?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/how-do-i-sort-all-this-out/) - There is an overwhelming array of theories, books, courses, seminars, and videos designed to assist parents. Unfortunately this help is frequently confusing and often contradictory. Behavioural Management Systems helps parents figure out practical ways of solving behaviour problems. Your knowledge of your child and family, combined with Rick's experience can lead to solutions to your - [What Does a Child With ADHD Look Like?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-does-a-child-with-adhd-look-like/) - It is not unusual for children to forget their homework, act impulsively or fidget at the dinner table. but children with ADHD are particularly prone to these types of behaviour. It can be however, difficult to distinguish between ADHD and normal childhood tendencies. If you identify a few of the following traits or the symptoms - [Temper Tantrums](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/temper-tantrums-2/) - "Temper tantrums come in all shapes and sizes, various decibel levels , and a myriad of duration spans. There are vertical temper tantrums, characterized by foot stomping and yelling; horizontal tantrums, in which the child beats or flails arms and legs in furious motions; and total body tantrums, where the child - [Teen Issues # 5](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/teen-issues-4/) - Teens do things that are irresponsible. That is the nature of adolescence. For some of us, the teen years had some minor blips, and for others of us, they where major. For the sake of your teen, remember your own adolescence. The more you can recollect how you felt and what you did - [Neural Plasticity of the Prepubescent Brain](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/neural-plasticity-of-the-prepubescent-brain/) - A normal 5 year old child has little difficulty learning and fluently speaking a foreign language. Learning new physical skills such as riding a bike or skiing can be achieved with relative ease during early childhood. After puberty , acquiring new skills will probably not be as easy because the areas of the brain associated - [Temper Tantrums (6 years and beyond)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/temper-tantrums-6-years-and-beyond/) - Tantrums by older children can be very unpleasant and all of the behaviours can be expected. Because of the child's increasing size and strength, there may be a danger to themselves, others and property. It is wise to get specific and professional help to deal with problems of this magnitude. - [Temper Tantrums (3 years to 6 years old)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/temper-tantrums-3-years-to-6-years-old/) - Children of this age are capable of putting on a great show including screaming, crying, protesting, swearing, making demands, physical resistance, throwing objects, spitting, hitting, biting, scratching, etc. "Redirection", "extinction", and "wait outs" continue to be appropriate responses by parents but it is also worth considering "time without reinforcement" (time out) and "withdrawal of privileges". - [Temper Tantrums (18 months to 3 years)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/temper-tantrums-18-months-to-3-years/) - A tantrum from a child this age becomes more dramatic. Expect screaming, crying, protest, slamming toys and doors, throwing objects, self injurious behaviours and lying on the ground with flailing arms and legs. The most effective and appropriate responses by the parent of a child this age are "redirection", "extinction", and "wait out". For safety - [Tantrums (9 months to 18 months)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tantrums-9-months-to-18-months/) - Temper tantrums should be expected to begin at this age. There will be a sudden explosion of tears and crying. He may throw himself to the ground, stiffen his body and clench his fist. You should attempt to determine the child's "goal" for the tantrum. If his "goal" is reasonable (eg. hunger, boredom, discomfort, etc.) - [Contributing Factors to Teen Depression](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/contributing-factors-to-teen-depression/) - Contributing Factors to Depression1. Genes - there is a genetic component - most children of depressed parents do not become depressed but there is an increased risk - [FASD and Early Adolescence (13-17 years)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-and-early-adolescence-13-17-years/) - The 2 main goals for parents during this stage are: 1.to prepare the young person to associate , identify and become a part of his community 2. to begin separation from parents Guidelines for Parents expect "normal" teen behaviour - clothes, hair style, music, etc (choose your battles wisely) expect your teen to resist your - [Professional Development](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/professional-development/) - I have attended 3 separate day long conferences in the last few weeks that all basically had the same prescription for troubled and troubling youth. Annette Kussin (MSW) was speaking in London on "Attachment in Adolescence". Stanley Kutcher (MD) was at CPRI in London and his topic was "The Developing Adoscent Brain" and Stuart Shanker - [Parenting a FASD Child (age 5-7 years)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/parenting-a-fasd-child-age-5-7-years/) - The main developmental task for this aged child is to develop confidence to attempt new things. Guidelines for Caregivers give age appropriate knowledge of FASD to the child be ready for problems to intensify as his world expands routine, consistency, help & repetition remain key problems for siblings increase - eg. embarrassment, stealing, fighting "subtle" - [Asperger's](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/aspergers/) - Asperger’s Syndrome What is it? Asperger’s Syndrome is a neurobiological disorder that results in behavioural characteristics that are best described as “odd” or “eccentric”. The cause is not known although there appears to be a strong genetic component as it has a high heritability rate. There is no cure. There are, however interventions that can yieldpositive results. HistoryDr. - [Differential Diagnosis - could it be something other than depression?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/differential-diagnosis-could-it-be-something-other-than-depression/) - DIFFERENTIAL DIAGNOSISThe symptoms outlined above could be caused by other conditions: eg. - parasitic diseases - Lyme disease - virus - mononucleosis - brain diseases - lesions, tumor - allergic disorders - hypothyroidism - chronic - [](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/2340-2/) - "Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell) - [Names of ADHD Through the Years](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/names-of-adhd-through-the-years/) - ADHD / ADD has been known by different names throughout its relatively short history. Below you will find some of them: fidgeties post encephalitic disorder defeat in moral character minimal cerebral dysfunction minimal brain injury hyperactivity hyperkenetic reactions in children hyperkenesis perceptual problems emotional problems undifferentiated attention disorder attention deficit disorder with / without hyperactivity - [ADHD and the Brain](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/adhd-and-the-brain/) - "The human brain is the best organized, most complex , highest functioning object in the universe." (Kenneth Wesson) An adult brain weighs about 3 pounds and has over 1 trillion cells (100 billion of them are neurons) and the cell connections within the brain number about 1 quadrillion. The brain stores bits of information and - [Meeting with Concerned Parents in Toronto](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/meeting-with-concerned-parents-in-toronto/) - I recently had an invitation to visit a church community north of Toronto to share some ideas with a small group of parents who are concerned about choices their teenagers are making. I outlined the 5 conventional approaches to dealing with these kinds of issues (medical, biochemical. counselling, skills acquisition, behavioural) and explained the strengths - [Encourage Playtime](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/encourage-playtime/) - Play is widespread throughout the animal kingdom suggesting that it must serve some vital function. One way to find out what play is good for is to take it away from animals and see how they fare. The problem is that this experiment is nearly impossible to do. Animals (including children) are irrepressible; - [4 Stages of Development](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/4-stages-of-development/) - At each of the four stages of development, from birth to age eleven, there is virtually a different being inhabiting your home. To get a flavour of each stage, it may be useful to keep these different creatures in mind: Infant: a small, squawking, hungry little bird, all mouth and unable to fly on its - [Separating from Parents](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/separating-from-parents/) - Being a parent of a teen can cure a person of narcissism. When your child was born, you were the center of his/her universe. You were special . Now that you have an adolescent, you have become less central. No matter what you do, your teen continues to invest in the outside world - [Sad or Depressed - What's the Difference?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/sad-depressed-whats-the-difference/) - Sadness is an unpleasant emotion in response to certain events: Examples - loss of a loved one - disappointment in missing a hoped- for opportunity - struggling to adapt to unwelcome changes These and a multitude of other circumstances can result in a process that takes us through a sequence of emotions including - [Angry, Hurting Kids Who Swear](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/angry-hurting-kids-who-swear/) - An excerpt from Kirk Martin's newsletter that is worth passing on: Angry children, kids who curse: what to say to them A sweet grandmother approached me after a workshop one day and asked, "What can we do to get my grandson to stop cursing? He's got a foul mouth and talks disrespectfully." This - [There's Something Wrong Here!](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/theres-something-wrong-here/) - If a child doesn't know how to read: we teach. If a child doesn't know how to swim: we teach. If a child doesn't know how to say "Please" and "Thank you": we teach. If a child doesn't know how to behave: we punish. There's something wrong with this picture ! - [The Most Important Job in the World](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-most-important-job-in-the-world/) - Raising a child is the most important job you will ever do. It is challenging, scary, fulfilling, exciting, frustrating - ALL AT THE SAME TIME - Parenting is tough because we have so little training, yet the results are so important. If you're in sales and you lose a sale, your pay cheque - [Taming a Toddler](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/taming-a-toddler-2/) - Most parents of newborns manage pretty well for the first year but as soon a the stubborn, self-centred, unreasonable toddler appears, many parents wonder what has hit them. Small children have an uncanny ability to unravel an adult nervous system. They are noisy and they make incredible messes and they bicker with one another and - [Types of Temper Tantrums](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/types-of-temper-tantrums/) - There are 2 types of tantrums: manipulative (child is trying to get his own way - conscious, planned, controlled) temperamental (child can't help it - he is truly "out of control") Both types can look the same and one form can lead into another. A temperamental tantrum acquires a manipulative quality when the child comes - [ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/adhd/) - Some children can't sit still. They appear distracted by every little thing and don't seem to learn from their mistakes. These children disregard rules, even when they are punished repeatedly. They tend to act without thinking, and this results in many accidents and reprimands. ADHD is one of the most common reasons children - [Mom, Dad, think before you act!](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/mom-dad-think-before-you-act/) - It is easier to stop difficult behaviour before it becomes entrenched. You should be very skeptical of the phrase "I'm just going to do this once" when it pops into your head in moments of parenting stress. Frankly, whatever you're thinking of doing, you're unlikely to do it only once. So unless you're - [Anger](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/anger/) - I find this quote from Gary Chapman intriguing as it relates to temper tantrums and the importance of handling them in a wise fashion. "It may surprise you that the primary lifetime threat to your child is his or her own anger. If your child does not handle his own anger well, it will damage - [Teen Issues # 3](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/teen-issues-5/) - Every teenager rebels against authority at some point - talks back, breaks curfew or disobeys. It goes with the territory - it's normal development. But many teens go beyond normal adolescent rebellion to engage in out-or-control or dangerous behaviour. If one of those teens is yours, you've probably lived through years of conflicting advice - [Rewarding Behaviour](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/rewarding-behaviour/) - Consistent, small rewards for small achievements work much better than large rewards for big goals, especially for younger children. After all, you wouldn't expect your child to learn to read if you paid him no attention until he'd finished his first book. You would indicate your pleasure along the way. Why set such - [Preventing Teen Suicide](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/preventing-teen-suicide/) - FACTORS THAT FACILITATE SUICIDE - an impulsive personality - neurochemical imbalance - lack of strong family ties - social isolation - family history of suicide - recent suicide of someone else - easy access to method - agitated mental state FACTORS THAT INHIBIT SUICIDE -strong family and social support - being around others - religious taboos - [Depression & Discipline](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/depression-discipline/) - CONFLICT AND DISCIPLINE - conflict in a home with a teenager is inevitable- challenge for parents is to balance firmness with support and encouragement-parenting a depressed teen is particularly challenging - “walking on eggshells” - scared of pushing too far TIPS1. “Pause” button - don’t get sucked into full-scale war - exit & wait - brain dead - [Suicide - Warning Signs](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/suicide-warning-signs/) - WARNING SIGNS - depression- previous suicide attempts- suicide of someone close- talking of suicide- preoccupation with death- giving away possessions- saying “Good bye” to family & friends- cryptic statements “You won’t have to worry about me anymore”- listening to sad music- drawing morbid pictures- statements indicating feelings of helplessness, hopelessness, worthlessness- statements about being a burden - [Sleep Problems (part 3 - the middle of the night screamer)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/sleep-problems-part-3-the-middle-of-the-night-screamer/) - A child who regularly wakens in the night and won't go back to sleep without a parent's help is SO DRAINING! The following technique is worthy of your consideration if you have a middle of the night screamer and you are sure that there is nothing wrong with the child ie. ill. The Controlled Crying - [Sleep Problems (part 2)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/sleep-problems-part-2/) - Sleep Facts Children differ in their ability to sleep - some are excellent at birth and throughout their childhood (lucky you) - some are inherently more susceptible to disrupted sleep patterns - it is normal for everyone (adults & children) to have brief wakenings during the night - [Behaviour Management](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/behaviour-management-3/) - First the good news! Children's behaviour is strongly influenced by the positive and negative consequences that immediately follow from certain actions. If you can set appropriate expectations for behaviour and get the consequences right, your children will follow your household rules - most of the time anyway. Now the bad news . . - [Parenting a FASD Infant](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/parenting-a-fasd-infant/) - The primary developmental task of all infants is to develop trust (in self and in others). Failure to develop "trust arrests development in all other areas. This task is immeasurably more complicated when the child has FASD. The development of "trust" is facilitated by the following guidelines: a) CONSISTENCY - the child will benefit from - [Trauma in Children](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/trauma-in-children/) - It is estimated that 40% of North American children will have at least one potentially traumatizing experience by the time they are 18 years old including: - death of a parent or sibling - ongoing abuse - physical, mental, sexual - serious accident - natural disaster - witnessing domestic violence - violent crime How adults - [Teen Issues 1](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/teen-issues/) - Parents of teenagers face numerous issues and struggles. It is no wonder they become discouraged, overwhelmed, angry or confused. Rick has ideas how to help. disrespectful attitude towards parents, family and others challenges requests or rules self-absorbed unable to see things from another's perspective lazy and careless about responsibilities has a negative attitude toward school - [Young & Bipolar](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/young-bipolar/) - YOUNG & BIPOLAR Bipolar = episodes of extraordinary energy and racing grandiose thoughts alternating with periods of deep, perplexing depression (manic depressive) Manic state: - great energy - unrealistic “highs” - go without sleep for days - rapid speech, flipping topics - intensely focus on activities or projects to the detriment of everything else - - [Tantrums at Various Ages](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tantrums-at-various-ages/) - 0 to 8 months Infants less than 8 months old do not have "temper tantrums" Crying or fussing is their way of communicating a need to you, whether it be hunger, diaper change, nap, change of position, or they simply don't feel well. You should respond to your baby and attempt to identify the problem - [Diagnostic Criteria for ADD/ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/diagnostic-criteria-for-addadhd/) - The following is a summary of the criteria in DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) and describes what doctors look for when diagnosing ADD or ADHD. A. INATTENTION ( the individual must display 6 or more of these characteristics) makes careless mistakes difficulty sustaining attention doesn't seem to listen does not finish schoolwork, - [Lori's note](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/loris-note/) - Lori’s psychiatrist asked her to write something describing her life:“Everybody is hurt sometime in his or her life. For me it started with my parents. But let me start further back. I was adopted in 1986 by my parents. In elementary school, people were not very nice to me. They spread rumours about me that - [Parenting a FASD Toddler](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/parenting-a-fasd-toddler/) - The main developmental tasks for a toddler are: - to learn he is a separate person - to learn his body is his own - to learn his ideas and feelings have value Life becomes increasingly frustrating for the toddler as the demands and expectations placed on him increase. He will discover that he is - [Variables Affecting FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/variables-affecting-fasd/) - Prenatal alcohol consumption does not ALWAYS result in neurological damage. Variables: dose (amount of alcohol) timing (stage of pregnancy) genetic factors (mother and baby) (some ethnic groups are more susceptible) metabolic factors (mother and baby)(some individuals have reduced enzymes to breakdown alcohol) Some other factors: maternal weight fetal weight cell development at time of alcohol - [FASD - First Scientific Sudy](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-first-scientific-sudy/) - The first scientific study conducted regarding FASD was done by Dr. William Sullivan in 1899 in Liverpool England. Sullivan compared the mortality rate of offspring of “female drunkards” with that of the offspring of their sober female relatives. He discovered that the death rate of “drunkards” children was 2.5 times greater than death rate of - [Does This Sound Familiar?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/does-this-sound-familiar/) - Does any of this sound familiar? - “No, you cannot have another glass of water” - “Look at that closet; what do you mean you have nothing to wear?” - “This room should be condemned by the Board of Health.” - “Do you think money grows on trees?” - “Get out of bed this instant?” - [The Good News & The Bad News](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-good-news-the-bad-news/) - First the good news: the recovery rate for a single episode is high Now the bad news: each episode increases the risk of another IT IS VITAL TO RECOGNIZE DEPRESSION EARLY AND TAKE STEPS TO TREAT IT! - [Ten Things to do with a Pencil - - if you're ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/ten-things-to-do-with-a-pencil-if-youre-adhd/) - 10 Things To Do With A Pencil ( . . . if you’re ADHD) Fly it through the air Roll it across your desk and let it fall to the floor Stick it in the screw of the chair Eat it Poke your neighbor Stick it up your nose Pick the threads of your socks - [Behavioural Characteristics of FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/behavioural-characteristics-of-fasd/) - Behaviour problems with individuals with FASD are a major concern for parents and schools: learning disabilities - academic - ADD / ADHD - speech and language - information processing - patterning problems poor impulse control inability to relate behaviour to consequences no sense of connection to societal rules poor short term memory inconsistent knowledge base - [Common Reactions of Parents Managing Children with FASDanger](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/common-reactions-of-parents-managing-children-with-fasdanger/) - anger hopelessness guilt frustration withdraws "why me?" overwhelmed None of these feelings resolve the problem! - [Frequency of Depression](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/frequency-of-depression/) - Depression is increasing in numbers. Is it because: incidents of depression is increasing more services are available families are more willing to seek help greater recognition Depression in adults is relatively easy to diagnose: there is a pronounced change in mood changes persist adults usually acknowledge the problem adults have some mature insights they - [Diagnostic Criteria for FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/diagnostic-criteria-for-fasd/) - All of the below must be present for a confident diagnosis: growth deficiency characteristic facial features central nervous system problems - microcephaly (small head) - hyperactivity - learning disabilities - developmental disabilities - seizures - mental retardation The characteristic facial features are most obvious between 8 months of age and 8 years. Diagnosis becomes more - [Kashechewan](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/2311/) - A big thank you to the staff at St. Andrew's School in Kashechewan for your kindness and the opportunity to share ideas about behaviour management. Kashechewan is a First Nations community of about 2,500 people in Canada's subarctic. It is situated near the mouth of the Albany River on James Bay. - [FASD - 4 Bad Things That Can Happen](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-4-bad-things-that-can-happen/) - Four bad things can happen to a developing baby exposed to alcohol in utero: - functional deficits - growth deficiency - malformation - death Full blown FASD is only the “tip of the iceberg”. The largest part of the iceberg is comprised of those individuals who appear “normal” but are unable to meet their potential. - [Columbine High School](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/columbine-high-school/) - COLUMBINE HIGH SCHOOL 1999- the two perpetrators (both committed suicide) - one was being treated for psychiatric disorder - both in trouble with the law - both were socially isolated “losers” - both had been bullied - both enduring painThis was a big story in 1999 but it is not the biggest story - most - [The Good News About Temper Tantrums](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-good-news-about-temper-tantrums/) - children usually outgrow them they are a normal part of development they are vehicles which teach children: how to cope with frustration - how to problem solve - communication skills 4. there are a number of strategies parents can use to teach these skills and numerous ideas about preventing them WARNING - the parent's understanding - [Where to begin looking for help](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/where-to-begin-looking-for-help/) - What options does a parent have when seeking help for their child’s behaviour problems? Parents who ask for my help have usually experienced many of the following emotions: frustration misunderstood confused overwhelmed exhausted bewildered angry guilty inadequate isolated vulnerable trapped embarrassed helpless hopeless This is not a fun place for a parent to be and - [FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-3/) - FASD is 100% preventable. If women did not drink alcohol during pregnancy, there would be no more children born with FASD. Even drinking on a social basis can have an effect on your unborn child (even a glass of wine with dinner or a can of beer watching TV. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO - [FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-2/) - FASD lasts a lifetime and creates countless problems for everyone. Individuals with FASD must contend with stress, obstacles, loneliness and failure at levels that exceed those experienced by most people. The amount of change that a child with FASD can accomplish on his own is seldom enough to get him successfully through life. PREPARING PEOPLE - [FASD - Wisdom from Long Ago](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-wisdom-from-long-ago/) - "You will conceive and give birth to a son. Now then, drink no wine or other fermented drink." ( Judges 13:7) In ancient Carthage, a ritual developed that forbade the drinking of wine by the bridal couple so that a defective child would not be conceived. - [Sleep Problems (part 1)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/sleep-problems-part-1/) - "Children are a comfort in our old age, it is true; and often children help us reach it faster too". "My children are the perfect age . . . too old to cry at night and too young to ask for the car." Sleep problems are not the same in children as they are in - [More FAQ about ADD/ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/more-faq-about-addadhd/) - 3. What are the theories about causes of ADD,ADHD? There have been many theories about the cause of ADD/ADHD but there is no consensus among the experts. a) brain injury - caused by trauma or disease - this was one of the first theories however current thinking suggests that this causes relatively few cases b) - [The Problem with ADD/ADHD Assessments](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-problem-with-addadhd-assessments/) - The medical community uses the term "diagnosis drives treatment". This means that a correct diagnosis must be made before a treatment is prescribed. This is quite straight forward with many medical problems (examples - throat infections, cancer, heart attacks, broken bones, abscess tooth, etc) as there are diagnostic tests that can definitively identify the problem - [Depression Facts](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/depression-facts/) - FACTS-80% of depressed teens do not get psychiatric help- 75% have continuing problems into adulthood- 25% develop additional problems eg. - substance abuse - anxiety - eating disorders - school failure- 20% have seriously considered suicide- many clash with their parents - [Symptoms of "Executive Dysfunction"](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/symptoms-of-executive-dysfunction/) - These are the kinds of things that make living with or working with an ADHD child challenging. lack of foresight (unable to predict consequences for his/her behaviour) poor hindsight ("Johnny, how many times do I have to tell you to . . . ) live for the minute (the future and past do not exist) - [Depression & Anxiety Disorder in Teens](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/depression-anxiety-disorder-in-teens/) - ANXIETY DISORDER IS A STRONG PREDICTOR OF DEPRESSION “Depression” is mourning the “past” or “present”.“Anxiety” is fearing the “”future”. “Anxiety” is a normal and useful reaction and warns us to be careful: - wear a seatbelt - use a bike helmut - designated driver - hold a child’s hand when crossing a street Worries and fears that interfere - [Caregiving - FASD (part 3)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/caregiving-fasd-part-3/) - 3 steps to managing children with FASD a) Recognize that FASD is a medical condition - FASD is not a bad attitude - it must be treated as a medical condition - society has denied this reality of FASD and blames the indivivual - "just sit down and behave" is unrealistic - punishing a child - [FASD Caregivers (part 2) - often times an invisible handicap](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-caregivers-part-2-often-times-an-invisible-handicap/) - Often times individuals with FASD do not display the physical features associated with FASD. Their appearance does not give any hint of the neurological problems that are hidden. Individuals with invisible handicaps are: easy to forget about their limitations easy to not provide compassion, understanding and forgiveness Children and adults with FASD need incredible amounts - [FASD - What Can a Caregiver Do? (part 1)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-what-can-a-caregiver-do-part-1/) - It is easy for us to to fail to recognize and respect the struggle and courage it takes for someone with FASD to make it through the day! We must remember: that irreversible brain damage occurred before birth FASD individuals will not "will power" their way out of it caregivers cannot "love" their way out - [Myths vs Facts - Suicide](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/myths-vs-facts-suicide/) - MYTH VERSUS FACTKnowing truth from fiction can make the difference!Myth: Teens who talk about suicide never do.Fact: Most of the time, people who attempt suicide have provided significant clues to their intentions. Myth: Nothing can stop someone once he has decided to take his own life.Fact: Most adolescents who contemplate suicide are torn. They are - [What Does Depression in Young People Look Like?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-does-depression-in-young-people-look-like/) - The following is an excerpt from a book by Carol Fitzpatrick and John Sharry. Case Study:"Debbie, aged 13, has not been to school for 8 weeks. She got the flu 3 months ago and was out of school for a week. She was determined to get back as quickly as possible as she is a - [School and the FASD Child](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/school-and-the-fasd-child/) - School demands (behaviour and academics) can be overwhelming for a child with FASD. In my opinion behaviour should take precedence over academics. It is possible that the sights, sounds and human dynamics within the school may be too stimulating for the child. Expect rules to be have to be taught , retaught and retaught some - [Recommendations for Parents of Children with ADD/ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/recommendations-for-parents-of-children-with-addadhd/) - Insist upon a proper evaluation - one that takes account of all aspects of your child's life - medical social academic psychological Consider ALL avenues of treatment - academic, psychosocial medical alternative Do not feel guilty about using medication if you feel confident in the medical evaluation and the advice you have received Do not - [Recommendations for schools regarding children with ADD/ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/recommendations-for-schools-regarding-addadhdwheneverpossiblespecialneedschildrenwilldobetterwithinregularclassrooms/) - Whenever possible, special needs children will do better within regular classrooms Putting more adults in a classroom (ie. EA's, volunteers, etc.) is good for all children, but especially those who need more immediate feedback and attention. Traditionally arranged classroom furniture can provide more structure than the "open" concept. Establish, destigmatize and encourage the use of - [What Is ADHD?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-is-adhd/) - "The wildest colts make the best horses" (Themistocles 5oo BC) ADHD is a common behaviour disorder that affects approximately 10% of school age children. An analysis of the research suggests that boys are affected 3 times more often than girls, althought the reason for this is unknown. Children with ADHD are hyperactive, act impulsively and - [Adolescent Narcissism](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/adolescent-narcissism/) - Adolescence is the prime time for humans to become completely immersed in narcissism. Teens will often start sentences with the word "I" and end with "Me" with several good 'My's", "Mine" and "Myself" sprinkled throughout. Any family decision will be deemed important only by how much it affects the teen. To the teenage mind, having - [Alcohol Abuse in College Age Women](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/alcohol-abuse-in-college-age-women/) - The following data comes from the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse in the U.S. (similar in Canada ? ? ?) In the 1960's, only 7 % of American girls reported having their first alcoholic drink between the ages of 10 and 14. Today, nearly 1/4 of all American girls report beginning to drink - [Central Nervous System Dysfunction Associated with FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/central-nervous-system-dysfunction-associated-with-fasd/) - Children with FASD can show several signs of central nervous system dysfunction including: microcephaly (small head) altered muscle tone poor fine and gross motor coordination hyperactivity attention / memory problems learning disabilities language and speech problems mental retardation irritability weak sucking response As the children get older, behaviour problems frequently become significant: failure to consider - [Depression - What do the young people say about it ?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/depression-what-do-the-young-people-say-about-it/) - “It was like a dread inside, there all the time. When I was with my friends it would go away a bit, but it always came back." - [Ritalin - the Good, the Bad and the Ugly](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/ritalin-the-good-the-bad-and-the-ugly-2/) - Second - the bad Like all medications, Ritalin has negative side effects. Not all individuals will be affected in the same way but the following list are concerns that have been observed: decreased appetite (hunger returns when meds wear off) weight loss failure to grow insomnia dizziness and drowsiness increase in motor and/or vocal tics - [Ritalin - the good, the bad and the ugly](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/ritalin-the-good-the-bad-and-the-ugly-3/) - Next - the ugly The abuse potential for stimulant medications are real. When used in the doctor prescribed manner and dosage there is little danger in this regard, however when "snorted" the effects are reported to be similar to snorting cocaine. In fact cocaine and methylphenidate (Ritalin) are very closely related. Larger doses give feelings - [Ritalin - the good, the bad and the ugly](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/ritalin-the-good-the-bad-and-the-ugly/) - First the Good - the following is a list of commonly observed behavioural changes when a child with ADD/ADHD begins using a stimulant medication (eg. Ritalin, Concerta, Dexedrine, Adderall) decreased motor activity decreased aggression decreased defiance less impulsive makes fewer careless mistakes grades improve more compliant improved relationships improved concentration improved attitude The "experts" really - [Handling a "Manipulative" Tantrum](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/handling-a-manipulative-tantrum/) - don't give in unless your original demand/denial is unreasonable if it is unreasonable, be prepared to change your mind you must send a message that tantrums don't work if you give in, you are reinforcing tantrums your attitude should be "firm" do not be too sympathetic - avoid saying "I'm sorry you're upset and crying, - [The History of Ritalin and ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-history-of-ritalin-and-adhd/) - In 1937, a psychiatrist by the name of Charles Bradley prescribed amphetamines to 32 children with behaviour problems who were suffering from extreme headaches as a result of a procedure called pneumoencephalography (ie. spinal tap - analyzing fluid in the spine). He was hoping the amphetamines would relieve the pain. The amphetamine (benzedrine) did little - [Living with a Child with ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/living-with-a-child-with-adhd/) - Children with ADHD can create chaos throughout the entire family, stressing everyone in the process. The morning routine and homework are frequent and lengthy sources of dissension. Siblings are often resentful of the time and special treatment given to the ADHD child. Parents may argue over the "best" strategy (a difficult problem because no strategies - ["Executive Dysfunction" and ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/executive-dysfunction-and-adhd/) - "Executive dysfunction" means an individual has difficulty "stopping" and taking the time to think through the possible consequences of an action and selecting one that is best. Another way of saying this is the child is very "impulsive". By definition a child with ADHD has "executive dysfunction". Our goal in helping him is to get - [Helping a Teen Moderate Stress](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/helping-a-teen-moderate-stress/) - HELPING A TEEN MODERATE & MANAGE STRESS “SPIT” HAPPENS ! 1. Listen - without judging - try to understand and appreciate their concern - if event resulted from bad behaviour or poor judgment - it’s vital to avoid making matters worse by berating - [FASD - Mental Retardation](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-mental-retardation/) - Mental retardation is the most debilitating feature of FASD but only about 50% of them actually fall into the retarded range of intelligence (IQ blow 70) This can present a significant problem to individuals with FASD because they may need special services but they do not qualify because their IQ scores are not below the - [Frequently Asked Questions about ADD/ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/frequently-asked-questions-about-addadhd/) - 1. Is it true that boys have ADHD more often than girls? The short answer is "yes" - 3 to 6 times more boys. The longer answer is that girls may be under diagnosed because they typically display less severe social problems. Boys are more at risk of developing almost every behavioural or emotional problem. - [Facial Features of FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/facial-features-of-fasd/) - Individuals with full blown FASD display characteristic facial features: short palpebral fissures (separation between the upper and lower eyelids) flat midface short nose indistinct philtrum (the depression between the nose and upper lip bordered by ridges) thin upper lip Associated facial features: epicanthal folds of the upper eyelid (from the nose to the inner side - [Depression - comorbidity in teens !](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/depression-comorbidity-in-teens/) - Adult depression is usually just that: depression Adolescent depression is frequently accompanied or preceded by other disorders complicating the diagnosis and treatment: - ADHD - GAD - CD - OCD - PTSD - substance abuse - [Types of Anxiety Disorders](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/types-of-anxiety-disorders/) - TYPES OF ANXIETY DISORDERS1. Separation Anxiety - fear of being separated from parents 2. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder - obsessive - intrusive, recurrent and persistent thoughts, impulses or images - compulsive - behaviour the individual feels driven to perform - may involve intricate rules - believe the behaviour will prevent a terrible event from occuring 3. Social Phobia - [Dealing with Temper Tantrums](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/dealing-with-temper-tantrums/) - No two children are the same. There are no universal disciplinary techniques that apply to all children. There are however, some general principles to keep in mind: tantrums are normal in young children tantrums are vehicles to teach valuable life long lessons children manifest tantrums most often: a) when their wishes are not met b) - [](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/2236/) - Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success. - [Parent /Child Relationships](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/parent-child-relationships/) - A good foundation for a smoothly functioning household is warm parent-child relationships. Enjoying fun times together with your child is good for its own sake, of course, but it also helps to keep everyone on the same side, wanting what's best for each other. The easiest children to discipline are the ones who want to - [What Does a Depressed Teen Look Like?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-does-a-depressed-teen-look-like/) - WHAT DOES A DEPRESSED YOUNG PERSON LOOK LIKE? - persistently sad or irritable mood- loss of interest in activities once enjoyed- significant change in eating or sleeping- loss of energy- feelings of worthlessness- feeling of inappropriate guilt- difficulty concentrating- recurrent thoughts of suicide- frequent physical complaints - headaches, etc.- school problems - absences, cutting classes, - [Helping an ADHD Child in the Classroom](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/helping-an-adhd-child-in-the-classroom/) - Children with ADHD typically have problems meeting the expectations placed on them by teachers. They will be much more likely to be successful if the teacher understands the difficulties that these students have and attempt to accommodate them as best they can.The following are some ways to assist children with ADHD in the classroom: 1. - [Stimulant Meds for ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/stimulant-meds-for-adhd/) - Stimulant medications (eg. Ritalin, Adderall, Concerta, Focalin, Dexedrine, Metadate, Methylin, Vyvanse) are the mainstay of medical treatment for ADHD. They have proven quite effective in controlling the symptoms of ADHD with relatively minor and manageable side effects. There is however some disturbing findings coming from research initiated at Harvard Medical School by Dr. William Carlezon. - [Developmental Tasks During Adolescence](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/developmental-tasks-during-adolescence/) - DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS DURING ADOLESCENTS 1) adjust to physical changes2) separate from their parents3) develop a social network4) begin to focus on educational and vocational objectives5) develop a sexual identity All of the above is a lot to expect in the few short years of adolescence = STRESS STRESS HAS A SIGNIFICANT EFFECT ON PARTS OF THE BRAININVOLVED - [The "Behavioural" Approach](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-behavioural-approach/) - The behavioural approach to managing children involves the application of learning principles identified by famous psychologists such as Pavlov, Thorndike, Skinner, Wolpe and Bandura. Each one of these individuals and countless others described strategies that increased desired behaviours, decreased undesired behaviours or taught new behaviours. These behaviour pioneers stressed the importance of direct observation and - [Diagnostic Criteria for Depression](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/diagnostic-criteria-for-depression/) - DIAGNOSTIC CRITERIA for MAJOR DEPRESSIVE DISORDERDSM-IV Presence of 5 or more of the following during the same 2 week period and represent a change from previous functioning.a) depressed mood most of the day, nearly every day b) markedly diminished interest or pleasure in all or almost all activities c) significant change in weight or appetite - either - [What Do The Young People Say Depression Was Like?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-do-the-young-people-say-depression-was-like/) - “It was like a dread inside, there all the time. When I was with my friends it would go away a bit, but it always came back."Jack - age 15 “I started worrying about everything, even things that never bothered me before. I was so worried about being asked a question in school that I used - [Teen Depression vs Adult Depression](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/teen-depression-vs-adult-depression/) - DIFFERENCES IN SYMPTOMS IN ADULTS & TEENS ADULTS tend to be sad stay sad sleep less eat less decrease in libido no change in anxiety no change in physical problems Teens tend to be angry, irrational, act out cycles in and out frequently sleep more eat more libido seldom impaired increased anxiety complains of somatic symptoms - [FASD - Lab Tests](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd-lab-tests/) - There are no definitive lab tests for FASD. The clues to recognition lie in the subtle interplay of physical and psychological characteristics and a mother’s alcohol history. Diagnosis is based on: 1. a complete physical examination 2. a thorough maternal history Lab tests may be used to rule out other causes of similar looking disorders - [ADHD and Executive Function](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/adhd-and-executive-function/) - Most species of animals do not have the capability of planning for the future. They are unable to "self talk". They react on impulse and are not able to evaluate their past actions rationally. Humans however do have this capability. It is called "executive function" and it gives us the option of modulating our behaviour. - [](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/1846/) - "Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting. - [](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/1886/) - Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear. - [Child and Youth Worker ](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/child-and-youth-worker/) - I am please once again to be a part of the training team for new Child and Youth Counsellor program (formerly Child & Youth Worker) at Fanshawe College (Woodstock campus). This 3 year program includes 3 academic semesters and 3 work term placements. Graduates move onto helping youth in schools, agencies, etc. - [Causes of Depression in Teens](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/causes-of-depression-in-teens/) - CAUSES not clearly understood no consensus interaction between: - brain chemistry - genetic vulnerability, life events, coping skills There is no gene or gene cluster, no one environmental factor or a single loss or traumatic event that triggers major depression. Very conscientious, perfectionist types appear to be more prone to depression than their easy going peers. - [Differential Diagnosis](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/differential-diagnosis/) - " Diagnosis drives treatment". It is imperative that a correct diagnosis be made before a doctor prescribes a treatment. One of the difficulties in diagnosing ADD/ADHD is that there are numerous conditions that can cause ADD/ADHD symptoms. Below is a partial list of some of these conditions: hyperthyroidism pin worms sleep disorder ear infections hearing - [The Value of "Reading Rescue"](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-value-of-reading-rescue/) - I would like to give you an update on the progress of a young boy who has been taking the Reading Rescue program. He is a grade 4 student in a regular classroom, who because of significant learning problems has been falling behind his classmates in all of his subjects. The reason for his reading - [11 Problems Associated with Providing Foster Care to "Disturbed" Children](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/11-problems-associated-with-proving-foster-care-to-disturbed-children/) - 1. removal from the “maltreating” home is delayed2. “maltreating” parents continue to sabotage current placement3. increase in severity of disturbance in today’s foster / adopted children4. inadequate preparation and follow-up support to foster / adoption parents5. failure to equip foster / adoption parents with practical therapeutic strategies6. foster / adoption parents receive a “disturbed” - [Did You Know ? # 1](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-1/) - A newborn will suck harder when he/she hears a recording of her/his mother speaking, but less so when she hears another woman’s voice. This is how we know that from birth, infants recognize mom’s voice. Just after birth, as many as 40,000 new synapses are added to the baby’s brain every second. - [Agencies, Groups and Organizations](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/agencies-groups-and-organizations/) - Below are some of the agencies, groups and organizations that I have had the privilege of providing training and consulting services to staff and clients: - Fanshawe College - W. Ross Macdonald School for the Blind and Deaf - Good Beginnings Daycare - London District Catholic School Board - Elgin Assoc. for Community Living - - [Common Reactions of Parents Managing children with FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/common-reactions-of-parents-managing-children-with-fasd/) - The following reactions by parents are common: anger hopelessness guilt frustration withdrawal "why me?" overwhelmed None of these reactions however resolve the problem but they are understandable. - [TRACKING - a tool for teaching appropriate behaviour ](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tracking-a-tool-for-teaching-appropriate-behaviour/) - Many children with FASD have difficulty with sequencing and seeing cause and effect. Life seems to be a series of randomly unrelated events. "Tracking" means to help the child recall an event or situation and its resulting consequences. Bedtime is a good time for "tracking" as he may be more ready to listen (a teachable - [FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fasd/) - FASD - What is it? it is damage to the brain and body the damage is caused by alcohol consumption by the mother during pregnancy it is the leading cause of mental retardation in North America its effects are irreversible and lifelong its effects vary from slight to devastating Characterized by: growth deficiency central nervous - [An Adoptive Mother of a Child with FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/an-adoptive-mother-of-a-child-with-fasd/) - "Children with FASD have permanent, irreversible brain damage - you do not outgrow it, and you cannot fix it, love it away, punish it away or ignore it away. You can however, provide the types of long-term intervention, support, structure and supervision that encourage, promote and allow adequate function" (Jan Lutke - adoptive mother of - [Diagnosing ADD/ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/diagnosing-addadhd/) - Diagnosing ADD/ADHD is not as simple and straightforward as you would think it should be. There are no "hard" biological markers detectable by conventional diagnostic tests (example - Xrays, blood tests, MRIs, etc.) Diagnosis is usually made by observing a child and comparing his/her behavioural characteristics with those of other children. Parents, teachers and others - [Foster Parents Working With Birth Parents](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/105/) - The Children's Aid Society has a legal responsibility to provide care for children who, for a variety of reason are unable to live with their birth family. The preferred arrangement for most of these children is to live temporarily within a foster home and work towards the reunification of the family. A respectful - [Recognizing, Living With and Treating Depression in Young People](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/recognizing-living-with-and-treating-depression-in-young-people/) - There is no sharp dividing line between "normal" mood swings of adolescence and depression. Parents are the key people to recognize signs of depression and recognition is the first step toward getting help.(3 hours) This workshop clearly explains: what depression is how to recognize it (it's more than moody) how common is it - [A Parent's Guide to the Teenage Brain](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/a-parents-guide-to-the-teenage-brain/) - A teenager's brain is not just an adult brain with fewer kilometres on it. It is a brain that has not fully developed. It is a work in progress and has stymied parents for centuries. Modern neuroscience is now explaining biological reasons why: 1. teens can seem so mature one minute and so maddening - [FREE WORKSHOP](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/free-workshop/) - I am pleased to once again be invited by the Parent Council of Davenport Public School in Aylmer to present a free workshop on April 9. The Parent Council has opened this training up to anyone who has an interest in teenagers. Title: Parenting a Teenager Without Losing Your Mind - [Foster / Adoption Parent Training](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/foster-adoption-parent-training/) - I wish to thank Carrie Davidson of the Brant County CAS for inviting me to share ideas with your foster/adoption parents on March 27. The topic was "Fostering - Take This Job and Shove Love it". We looked at a unique perspective on handling the stress in our everyday lives - [Child & Youth Worker Program -Fanshawe College (Woodstock)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/child-youth-worker-program-fanshawe-college-woodstock/) - The CYW academic semester is winding down for another year. It is such a pleasure to share child development and management ideas with so many young and enthusiastic minds. I wish all of them the very best as they continue their education. Next up in their training is a 4 month work placement - [Tactics for Tantrums (Part 2)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tactics-for-tantrums-part-2/) - Tactic # 3 The "I" Approach This method is related to the previous "I Feel" technique. For the child who is more verbal and beginning to reason, a simple explanation of the parent's feelings often help; for example, "It makes me unhappy (or uneasy, nervous, angry, upset) to see you act like this." - [Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 4)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tactics-for-temper-tantrums-part-4/) - The Goofy Parents with a latent theatrical talent find this method quite successful. In it, the parent clowns, makes faces, dances around, sings ridiculous songs, falls down, or performs whatever slapstick antics come to mind. Not only is the child distracted, but she may even laugh at seeing the ordinarily reserved adult acting - [Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 5)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tactics-for-temper-tantrums-part-5/) - Bait & Switch For the child with a good sense of humour (usually an older child or three or more), bait and switch is worth a try. The parent says something like, "I can see you're angry, so whatever you do, don't smile. Oh no! I think I see a smile! Don't let - [Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 6)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tactics-for-temper-tantrums-part-6/) - Diversionary Tactic Try to divert the child's interest to something else. Pick up his favourite book and offer to read, or bring him a toy he likes. Children, especially young ones, have such short attention spans that they can often be distracted from their own performances. If this doesn't work, try sitting down and actively - [Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 7)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tactics-for-temper-tantrums-part-7/) - Retreat Sometimes there is nothing else but to retreat. Let the child know you will absolutely not be drawn in. This approach is justified when the stimulus to the tantrum is so absurd that it is not worth any effort (such as the one that frequently occurs when someone fails to cut the - [Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 8)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tactics-for-temper-tantrums-part-8/) - Concession Sometimes nothing works. And sometimes for reasons of sheer equality or common sense or both, the parent finds it necessary to concede. After all, we're not our childlren's adversaries; we're their advocates. Sometimes, both interests are seerved by giving in. Giving in to a tantrum now and then will not foster a - [Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part # 9)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tactics-for-temper-tantrums-part-9/) - Early Intervention Intervene early, either before the tantrum starts or as soon as possible after it starts. Most children do not go from behaving appropriately to having a tantrum in a matter of seconds. More often, they first engage in inappropriate behaviours such as talking back, crying, whining or yelling. In most cases, - [Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 10)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/tactics-for-temper-tantrums-part-10/) - Determine the Type of Tantrum Tantrums come in 2 varieties: "development" and "manipulative. The terrible two's is all about the "developmental" type. These are typically very intense as the child literally has lost control of himself. With increasing age, this type usually gives way to the "manipulative" tantrum that typically has less intensity - [Research on Teens](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/research-on-teens/) - Reginald Bibby concludes from his research that I reported in my previous blog that: 1. The values deemed "most important" by adult Canadians are mirrored by a solid majority of young people. 2. Canadian teens tend to hold essentially the same views as canadian adkults about core values. 3. Teen outlook is remarkably - [Challenges Parents of Some Teens Face](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/challenges-parents-of-some-teens-face/) - My previous 2 blog entries highlighted positive research finding by Canadian sociologist Reginald Bibby. Unfortunately not all teens fit his description. Below is a list of concerns that parents share with me: disrespectful attitude self absorbed lazy & careless about responsibilities negative attitude toward life and school emotionally withdrawn & distant picks friends - [Parenting Workshop](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/parenting-workshop/) - I am frequently invited to speak to parents at school, conferences, children's aid societies, church groups etc. and share ideas about parenting. My workshop entitled "A Parent's Guide to the Teenage Brain" is a 3 hour training that outlines cutting edge research that explains what's happening in a teenager's head - and it - [What Does a Child With ADD/ADHD Look Like ?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-does-a-child-with-addadhd-look-like/) - There are lots of descriptive words that are frequently used: can't sit still impulsive distractible, distracting inattentive disregards rules doesn't seem to learn from mistakes "BIG" problems at school cause stress in families few friends - bugs others punishments seem ineffective noncompliant mood swings few inhibitions They are often accused of being lazy, - [How Would You Feel IF:](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/how-would-you-feel-if/) - How would you feel if your whole life people: kept yelling at you accused you of being lazy said you weren't trying hard enough said you don't apply yourself said you are irresponsible You would probably feel: angry discouraged usesless worthless hopeless And those kinds of persistent feelings do not take someone to - [Child & Youth Worker - Fanshawe College, Woodstock](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/child-youth-worker-fanshawe-college-woodstock/) - The CYW students from Fanshawe College , Woodstock campus have started their 16 week work placement in County and beyond schools and agencies. The CYW course is a 3 year diploma program that equips students to provide services to a wide variety and age range of young people. I have had the privilege - [FAQ re: ADHD (#1)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/faq-re-adhd-1/) - Is it true boys have ADD/ADHD more often than girls? The short answer is "yes" - 3 to 6 times more boys. The longer answer - girls may be under diagnosed because they typically display less severe social problems. Boys are more risk of developing almost any childhood behavioural or emotional problems except - [FAQ re: ADD/ADHD (# 2)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/faq-re-addadhd-2/) - Question - Do ADD/ADHD children also have other significant problems? Answer - yes A incomplete list of common conditions that coexist with ADD/ADHD include: learning disabilities oppositional defiant disorder conduct disorder anxiety disorder obsessive compulsive disorder depression bipolar tic disorder Asperger's sensory integration dysfunction sleep disorders - [Sleep Problems](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/sleep-problems/) - Sleep problems are common in children and often cause significant frustration, worry and anger in the home. Sleep problems are not the same in children as they are in adults. For example, infants and toddlers who are not sleeping well do not complain - their parents do. Young children are usually more unhappy - [Foster Parent Training](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/foster-parent-training/) - It was my pleasure recently to have had the opportunity of speaking to a group of foster parents from Carpe Diem Residential Treatment Homes in the Hamilton/Ancaster, Ontario area. Approximately 20 foster parents and staff participated in the workshop "A Parent's Guide to the Teenage Brain" and they learned that modern science can - [My Kid Won't Go to Sleep!](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/my-kid-wont-go-to-sleep/) - I frequently receive phone calls from parents who tell me their child will not go to sleep. Typically these are parents of children under 4 years old who tell me their child does not fall asleep readily at night and/or wakes repeatedly during the night. The parents are tired, frustrated and - [Balancing Punishments and Reinforcement](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/balancing-punishments-and-reinforcement/) - If a child doesn't know how to read: - we teach. If a child doesn't know how to swim: - we teach. If a child doesn't know how to multiply: - we teach. If a child doesn't know how to behave: - we punish. There is something wrong with this picture! - [Upcoming Workshop - "A Parent's Guide to the Teenage Brain"](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/upcoming-workshop-a-parents-guide-to-the-teenage-brain/) - I will be presenting a 3 hour workshop entitled "A Parent's Guide to the Teenage Brain" at the Woodstock campus of Fanshawe College on Oct 21, 2013 (6:30-9:30) "A teenager's brain is not just an adult brain with fewer kilometres on it. It is a brain that has not fully developed. - [Moms Are Special](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/moms-are-special/) - The following was sent to me by a friend and I do not know where it originated. Questions were asked to young children and their answers are delightful. 1. Why did God make moms? To help us out of there when we were born. 2. How did God make mothers? God made my - [Homework Hassles (part 1)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/homework-hassles-part-1/) - Homework can be a major source of conflict between children and parents. Some children are avoiders, some procastinators, some fail to bring their work home and some do as little as possible. Some do it too fast and carelessly and some take too long. Frequent battles over homework are harmful to healthy family - [Homework Hassles (part 2)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/homework-hassles-part-2t/) - There are 2 kinds of homework resistors and each requires a different response: the work is too hard for the child the child views the work as irrelevant, not important or boring 1) If the work is too hard, the child has been placed in an impossible position and his homework resistance will - [Toilet Training (part 1)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/toilet-training-part-1/) - "I am a grown man with a university degree. I consider myself to be mature, well adjusted and able to exist adequately in our modern society . As such, I never would have believed the exhilaration and pride I experienced when my son did his first "slam dunk" in the potty" (a parent - [Toilet Training (part 2)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/toilet-training-part-2/) - As I stated in my previous blog many toilet training difficulties are really non problems. They stem from either: unrealistic expectations misleading advice A child’s neurological and physiological “systems” must be sufficiently developed in order to gain control of his bladder and bowels and there is a wide variation of ages when these - [Toilet Training (part 3)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/toilet-training-part-3/) - You would be wise to read my 2 previous postings about toilet training as a review before attempting this actual routine. Remember you can’t go far wrong: if you don’t start too early if you don’t force the child if you don’t panic Step # 1 Does he know he’s wet? Modern disposable - [10 Things To Do With a Pencil (if you're ADHD)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/10-things-to-d-do-with-a-pencil-if-youre-adhd/) - Fly it through the air. Roll it across your desk and let it fall to the floor. Stick it in the screw of the chair. Eat it. Poke your neighbour. Stick it up your nose. Pick the threads of your socks. Sharpen it . . . sharpen it again . . . sharpen - [Asperger's Syndrome (part 1)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/aspergers-syndrome-part-1/) - I recently had an opportunity to meet with a school staff regarding a young boy who is having a tough time. He is doing OK academically but his "odd" social skills result in him being bullied and manipulated by his classmates. He becomes angry and lashes out and problems snowball from there. I - [Asperger's Syndrome (part 2)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/aspergers-syndrome-part-2/) - There are no "hard" diagnostic tests for Asperger's. The diagnosis is made through observation and reports from parents, teachers, etc. The majority of children with Asperger's are diagnosed between the ages of 5 and 11 although a diagnosis may not be made until adulthood. There is no "cure" for Asperger's Syndrome, however - [The Terror of Night Terrors](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-terror-of-night-terrors/) - Few things are more terrifying for a parent than the first time their child has a night terror. Night terrors are different than bad dreams or nightmares. Bad dreams and nightmares happen to virtually everybody and occur during the REM sleep phase (rapid eye movement). Researchers have discovered that even fetuses have dreams - [Reading Rescue](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue/) - "Reading Rescue" is a program I developed that is intended for those children who are not experiencing success in their ability to read in the early grades. It is a highly structured and sequential phonics based reading program that teaches: the sounds of individual letters the skill of blending 2 sounds together, then - [Reading Rescue - theory - part 1 ](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-theory-part-1/) - There are 2 basic approaches to teaching reading: phonics based whole language The traditional theory of learning established in the 19th century draws on the notion that children need to break down a complex skill into its smallest components and then put the components together to perform the complex skill. Example - the - [Politics of Teaching Reading](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/politics-of-teaching-reading/) - Proponents of each of the 2 approaches to reading (phonics based vs whole language) maintain their approach is the "KEY" to engaging children in reading and are often critical of the other. The "whole language" group think children's literature, writing activities and communication activities can be used across the curriculum to teach reading. - [Reading Rescue - theory part 2](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-theory-part-2/) - Rescue Reading" is intended for those children who are not experiencing success in their ability to read in the early grades. It is a highly structured and sequential phonics based reading program that teaches: the sounds of individual letters the skill of blending 2 sounds together, then 3, then 4, then . . - [Brain Facts # 1](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-facts-1/) - The traditional school environment works well for children when their natural love for learning is sound and for children whose brains are hardwired to be able to sit, behave and stay focused in a classroom. The traditional environment however does not work well for those children who are not so blessed. Welcome to - [Brain Facts # 4 ](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-facts-4/) - The Changing Brain Our brains constantly change over our lifetime as we develop and age. As a consequence, the way various brain functions work also changes, sometimes for better and sometimes for worse. The brain of a newborn is far from developed; it needs time to fully grow and establish connections on both large - [Brain Facts # 6](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-facts-6/) - Brain Imaging A key contributor to our growing understanding of neuroplasticity was the development of brain imaging technology. By allowing scientists to produce images of the brain that show its structure, as well as where activity spikes as it engages in various cognitive activities, these neuroimaging methods have revolutionized neuroscience in the same - [Brain Fact # 7](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-fact-7/) - Learning and Cognition Most organisms begin life with all of the processing systems and information that they need to survive. Humans are a notable exception in that an adult-size brain is significantly larger than a mother's birth canal. So, we are born with an immature brain that develops additional mass and capabilities during its - [Brain Fact # 11](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-fact-11/) - Physical Exercise and the Brain Physical exercise seems to slow and perhaps even halt or reverse the brain atrophy (shrinkage) that typically starts in a person's forties, especially in the frontal regions of the brain responsible for executive function. In other words, exercise (aerobic exercise) can increase the brain's volume of neurons (grey matter) - [Schizophrenia](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/schizophrenia/) - What Is Schizophrenia ? - it is a cruel brain disease - it constricts experiences - it destroys opportunities - it attacks all socioeconomic levels and nationalities - it attacks about 6 people out of every 1000 in Canada - rate in North America appears to be increasing - MRI studies show structural abnormalities - [Brain Fact # 13](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-fact-13/) - Food for Thought If you were to inject a blue dye into the blood stream of an animal, tissues of the whole body would turn blue - except the brain and the spinal cord. This is due to the presence of the blood brain barrier which prevents some materials in the blood, such as - [Dealing With Children's Behaviour Problems](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/dealing-with-childrens-behaviour-problems/) - I have been working with children with behaviour issues for over 40 years. Some of these children displayed emotional problems, learning disabilities, impulse control issues, hyperactivity and attention deficits. They all have had trouble functioning in their homes, schools and/or community. Behavioural Management Systems believes that these problems can best - [Big Brothers, Big Sisters, Big Day](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/big-brothers-big-sisters-big-day/) - I had an opportunity recently to meet with a number of people connected through Big Brothers/Big Sisters. The Wellington Street Sportsmen's Club each year invite the "Brothers and Sisters" to participate in a day of fishing at the club pond near Dorchester. About 50 Brothers and Sisters came out to enjoy a beautiful - [Dry Bed Training](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/dry-bed-training-2/) - Dry Bed Training (Part 1) Many of the parents who contact me regarding behaviour issues with their children also deal with bed wetting, and dry bed training is sometimes a secondary goal that we address. First the Good News ! 1. Bedwetting is not an illness. 2. Bedwetting is not the child's - [Hypnosis (an alternative treatment for bedwetting)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/hypnosis-an-alternative-treatment-for-bedwetting/) - Hypnosis (an alternative treatment for bedwetting) Another treatment option that may be worthy of consideration is hypnosis. This treatment is relatively inexpensive, less time consuming or complicated than some and virtually no medical side effects to worry about. Recent medical studies show that hypnotherapy can work quite quickly (4-6 sessions). It gives children the - [Night Terrors](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/night-terrors/) - Question from a parent - "What are night terrors?" Night terrors are completely different from nightmares or bad dreams. They are sometimes called sleep terrors since they can occur during daytime naps as well as nighttime sleep. Any parent who has witness a child in the process of a night terror will understand completely - [The Changing Brain](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-changing-brain/) - Our brains constantly change over our lifetime as we develop and age. As a consequence, the way various brain functions work also changes, sometimes for better and sometimes for worse. The brain of a newborn is far from developed; it needs time to fully grow and establish connections on both large and small scales. - [Depression in Young People (part 2)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/depression-in-young-people-part-2/) - Robin Williams apparently had several "demons" tormenting him: ADHD substance abuse depression bipolar obsessive compulsive and he finally could take it no more and he ended his life several days ago. Experts estimate that approximately 25% of all women will experience clinical depression in their lifetime and 15% of all men. A typical high - [Types of Depression Diagnosed in Young People](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/types-of-depression-diagnosed-in-young-people/) - TYPES OF DEPRESSION DIAGNOSED IN YOUNG PEOPLE(the Oxford Psychiatric Dictionary lists 25 different types of depression)Listed below are the most common a) MAJOR DEPRESSIVE DISORDER (MDD) - serious depression lasts an average of 7-9 months - similar to adult depression in some ways - [The Teenage Brain](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-teenage-brain-2/) - Adolescence is ONE of the times in an individuals life when the greatest brain development is occurring. the brain changes in size and shape grey matter thickens increase in synaptic connections between brain cells specialization within the brain occurs "pruning" of neural pathways occurs sex hormones impact the brain Neurotransmitters are chemicals in the - [Have ADD/ADHD ?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/have-addadhd/) - You're in good company . Beethoven Elvis Bill Gates Henry Ford Robin Williams Socrates Mozart Winston Churchill Alexander Graham Bell Picasso Napoleon Jim Carey John Lennon Howie Mandel J.F.K. Bill Cosby Louis Pasteur Michael Jordan Richard Branson Whoopi Goldberg Michael Phelps Jamie Oliver A diagnosis of ADD /ADHD is not something one would wish - [LEADERSHIP WITHIN A FAMILY](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/leadership-within-a-family/) - LEADERSHIP WITHIN A FAMILY A leader or leaders will emerge in every family. If parents are unable or unwilling to perform the leadership role, a child will take over. There is no minimum age for this to happen. Some parents become "slaves" to a newborn, the moment (s)he comes home from the hospital. Frequently - [THE VICIOUS CYCLE OF BEHAVIOUR PROBLEMS](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-vicious-cycle-of-behaviour-problems/) - A "vicious cycle of behaviour problems" begins when a child repeatedly performs an inappropriate behaviour and the parent's attempt to manage it is unsuccessful. The behaviour is repeated many times over a period of time with the results being: management strategy continues to be less than successful parent gets angry the child continues the - [A GOOD TEACHER](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/a-good-teacher/) - A good teacher will attempt to fulfill the following roles for YOUR child and about 25 other kids also. He/she will need your help and support; teacher counsellor organizer disciplinarian encourager mentor book keeper role model assessor file trip planner social worker hot dog money collector coat finder arbitrator supervisor paper pusher fundraiser nose - [PARENT / TEACHER RELATIONSHIP](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/parent-teacher-relationship/) - Your child will spend 6 hours a day in a classroom with his teacher. That works out to about 1200 hours per year. It is a good idea to touch base with the teacher early in the school year to demonstrate that you care deeply about your child's education and that you wish to - [Child & Youth Worker Program at Fanshawe College](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/child-youth-worker-program-at-fanshawe-college/) - I am pleased once again to be a part of Fanshawe College's CYW program at the Woodstock campus. This is a 3 year program with 6 semesters (3 in class at the college and 3 in the field). I am looking forward to reconnecting with a number of former students as their college supervisor. - [MOM](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/mom/) - Before I Was a Mom (author unknown) Before I was a Mom, I never thought about immunizations. I didn't worry whether or not my plants were poisonous. I never tripped over toys or forgot words to a lullaby. Before I was a Mom, I never had been puked on. Pooped on. Chewed on. Peed - [Temper Tantrums in a Restaurant](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/temper-tantrums-in-a-restaurant/) - A child having a temper tantrum in a restaurant is an unpleasant experience not only for the parents but also the other customers. It is the parent's responsibility to manage in such a way as to minimize the discomfort of the other guests but also teach you child more acceptable ways to handle frustrations. - [Teenage Girls and Alcohol](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/teenage-girls-and-alcohol/) - "Drink for drink, alcohol is more dangerous to young women than it is to young men, even after adjusting for differences in height and weight. Alcohol abuse appears to damage girls' brains differently and more severely than the same degree of alcohol abuse affects same-age boys. These facts are well established among researchers who - [Kids & Drugs](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/kids-drugs/) - HOW TO TALK TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT DRUGS – IF YOU DID DRUGS (your experience may actually be an advantage) 1.THIS ISN’T ABOUT YOU. We all want to warn our kids against the dangers of drug use. But the single biggest reason so many of us are reluctant to start the conversation is because we’re - [Sibling Rivalry](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/sibling-rivalry-2/) - SIBLING RIVALRY Let’s do a little word association game. I say a word and you say the first word that pops into your mind: dog - cat wedding - cake, dress colour - red horse - buggy sibling - rivalrySibling rivalry has existed as long as we’ve had siblings! In Biblical times we had Cain and - [A Note to Rob Ford's Kids (and every other kid who has a parent fighting cancer)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/a-note-to-rob-fords-kids-and-every-other-kid-who-has-a-parent-fighting-cancer/) - Hi Stephanie & Doug This past week you received some very alarming news about cancer and I just want to share with you some of the things that I learned about cancer when my family was hit with it a few years ago. First, cancer is a word that sounds very scary. We hear - [Question to Behavioural Management Systems](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/question-to-behavioural-management-systems/) - We have an 8 month old daughter who is very fussy. She cries whenever I put her down and won't stop until I pick her up again. This happens all day long. I'm getting real tired of it. Please help me. Answer: Crying is your babies form of communicating. It is how she lets - [Single Parents](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/single-parents/) - SINGLE PARENT FAMILIESSingle parent families occur because of: 1. separation / divorce 2. unwed mothers 3. death of a spouse 4. adoption / fostering by a single 5. non participating spouseWhatever the family history, all single parents take on a challenging responsibility of raising their children alone. It’s difficult enough for 2 parents with - [Reading Rescue](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-3/) - Can you read these? 1. Msot of the wrdos in tihs scetenne are slelped icnrceorlty and yet you are slitl albe to raed it wtuhot mcuh ducfltiify. 2. thewordsinthissentenceareallspelledcorrectlybutitisprobablymoredifficulttoreadthansentencenumberone. The sentences you just read illustrate what a complex skill reading actually is. You did not use your phonics skills or your whole language skills - [Child Development](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/child-development/) - Baby Teeth By the age of 6 or 7, the first adult teeth begin to replace baby teeth. They come in at the back of the mouth, behind the last baby teeth. They do not replace any primary (baby) teeth. The roots of some of the primary teeth become weak at about 6 years old - [ADHD Medication - the good](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/adhd-medication-the-good/) - The following anecdote illustrates the effectiveness of medication with some children.A group of psychiatrists conducted a study that included videotaping ADHD children and their mothers in the following play situations: a) observing play before Ritalin started b) observing play after Ritalin Conditions - child and mother are in a play room with lots of - [Behavioural Characteristics of FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/behavioural-characteristics-of-fasd-2/) - BEHAVIOURAL CHARACTERISTICS OF FASD Learning Disabilities: - academic - ADD/ADHD - speech & language - information processing - patterning problems Poor impulse control Inability to relate behaviour to consequences No sense of connection to societal rules Poor short term memory Inconsistent knowledge base Poor personal boundaries Confusion under pressure Difficulty grasping abstract concepts Inability - [Terror Attacks](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/terror-attacks/) - 10 Tips on Talking to Your Children About Terror Attacks It is not possible to shield our children from the events such as the events that Canada has experienced this past week. They see and hear the stories on TV, radio, in the newspaper and they also note the emotional responses from the adults - [Child/Parent Attachment](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/child-parent-attachment/) - "Child development is fundamentally social - it proceeds through relationships" (Stanley Greenspan Ph.D.) "Children MUST have a secure relationship with adult caregivers or attachment will not occur and healthy emotional development will; be arrested." (Richard Delaney Ph. D) In the early weeks, months and years of life , the following are positive signs that - [BREASTFEEDING AND ALCOHOL](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/breastfeeding-and-alcohol/) - The milk of a breast feeding mother will have the same concentration of alcohol as the alcohol level in her bloodstream. This means that a nursing baby will consume alcohol if mother has. A baby has a very tiny and immature liver that must process the alcohol. It will take the child considerably longer - [Brain Facts # 2 - What do neurons do?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-facts-2-what-do-neurons-do/) - The average brain contains approximately 100 billion brain cells called neurons. Another category of cells in the brain called glial cells are even more numerous and help neurons function normally. Neurons have a specialized ability to manage bioelectrical information and to communicate with each other by exchanging chemical information in the - [Brain Fact # 3](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-fact-3/) - The human brain consists of several main parts, including the brain stem, the cerebellum. the cerebrum. Structurally, the brain stem is at the bottom of the brain and becomes the spinal cord. The cerebellum rests just above the brain stem with the cerebrum taking the upper most part. The brain stem relays information - [Arguing](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/arguing/) - ARGUING A child can only argue with someone who is willing to argue with him. Children only argue with adults who take the bait. CONTROLLING ARGUING When he/she starts to argue 1. give him a choice: “either stay her and stop arguing” OR “go someplace else in the house and argue with yourself - no - [Setting Limits with Teenagers](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/setting-limits-with-teenagers/) - Setting Limits with Teenagers ! A teenager's job description includes being: impulsive rebellious style-obsessed irritable incommunicative peer centered risk taker sleep deprived While judgment skills are developing, he needs parents to keep him safe by setting clear limits backed up with fair, reasonable, firm and consistent consequences. Balanced limits builds trust between parents and - [Reading Problems](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-problems/) - Reading Problems Dyslexia ( a reading/spelling disorder) affects nearly 8% of elementary school children and it can make school torturous. The best way to improve reading skills is by reading but finding books that interest children with dyslexia is no easy feat. The following books are great for encouraging less than keen readers because - [Lying](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/lying/) - LYINGLittle children keep no secrets -but that changes overtime. At some point children realize that parents are not all knowing. It becomes possible to influence what their parents know about their actions and thoughts. They learn that information is power and concealing information makes them feel powerful. Lying and truth telling have powerful consequences - [Lying - Part 2](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/lying-part-2/) - LYING & TRUST a) Children and teens lie a lot details about - where they’re going - what they’re doing - who they’re with - doing things forbidden them - sometimes they continue to lie even when caught and the facts are undeniable - they may become enraged when not believed “YOU DON’T TRUST - [THE TERROR OF NIGHT TERRORS](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-terror-of-night-terrors-2/) - The Terror of Night Terrors Few things are more terrifying for a parent than the first time their child has a night terror. Night terrors are different than bad dreams or nightmares. Bad dreams and nightmares happen to virtually everybody and occur during the REM sleep phase (rapid eye movement). Researchers have discovered - [Aspergers](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/aspergers-2/) - Asperger’s Syndrome What is it? Asperger’s Syndrome is a neurobiological disorder that results in behavioural characteristics that are best described as “odd” or “eccentric”. The cause is not known although there appears to be a strong genetic component as it has a high heritability rate. There is no cure. There are, however interventions that can yieldpositive results. HistoryDr. Hans - [Not All Blended Families Look Like the Brady Bunch](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/not-all-blended-families-look-like-the-brady-bunch/) - Not all blended families look like the Brady Bunch - in fact not very many do ! The Brady Bunch was a TV sitcom (1969-1973) showing the blending of 2 families. Dad brought 3 boys and mom brought 3 girls into a new blended family. The first season depicted typical adjustments, accommodations and resentments - [How Do I Know If My Child Has ADHD ?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/how-do-i-know-if-my-child-has-adhd/) - The short answer is that you don't ! In order for a child (or adult) to be diagnosed with ADHD, he/she must be evaluated by either a medial doctor or a psychologist. A best case scenario would involve both of the above professionals along with input from the school, various clinicians and parents. Doctors - [What Can I Do About My Child's ADD/ADHD ?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-can-i-do-with-my-childs-addadhd/) - My previous blog focused on diagnosing ADD/ADHD and I ended it with the question most parents ask me about ADD/ADHD - "What do we do about it?" The answer to this question is also not straight forward as there are numerous directions parents can look - but each option has both positive and negatives - [10 Things to Know About an Angry Brain](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/10-things-to-know-about-an-angry-brain/) - I recently had the pleasure of attending a full day workshop entitled "Healing the Angry Brain" presented by Dr. Ron Potter-Efron from Wisconsin. He informed and entertained a large group of mental health professionals about his research and clinical experiences of working with clients dealing with significant anger, hostility, aggression and rage issues.He emphasized - [Asperger's Syndrome](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/aspergers-syndrome/) - What is it? Asperger’s Syndrome Asperger’s Syndrome is a neurobiological disorder that results in behavioural characteristics that are best described as “odd” or “eccentric”. The cause is not known although there appears to be a strong genetic component as it has a high heritability rate. There is no cure. There are, however interventions that - [Limit Testers](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/limit-testers/) - ENTHUSIATIC LIMIT TESTERS Many children : 1. do not stop when told 2. don’t respect rules 3. don’t respect authority 4. lack basic social skills 5. have emotional problems 6. have learning disabilities 7. do NOT have an identified diagnosis MOST ARE SIMPLY EXERCISING THEIR WILLPOWERParents have tried: - lectures - threatening - reasoning - explaining - bribing - - [First Day of School](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/first-day-of-school/) - "Back To School" sales are just around the corner and legions of little children will soon begin "Big School". This can be a stressful time for both the child and the parents. Before your child starts school, it is helpful if your child can independently: do up his own shoes put on and take - [Violent Video Games](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/violent-video-games/) - The following is a scene from Grand Theft Auto : Vice City. It is a first person game where the player controls all the characters and is awarded points for behaving in certain ways. You steal a geek's Corvette and speed along Miami's roadways. You turn up the volume on the car's radio. - [Security Blankets](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/security-blankets/) - Many toddlers and preschoolers have a special blanket or stuffed toy that is very important to them. Researchers have found that these security items are appropriately named because they actually do provide a feeling of security for children. Approximately 60% of young children do have an attachment to a comforting blanket or toy. Children eventually - [Delayed Gratification](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/delayed-gratification/) - "Compared to previous generations, young people are more likely to want lots of money and nice things but are less likely to say they're willing to work hard to earn them." (Journal of Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin) A prime example of this is the number of children and teens who have their own - [Rising Rates of Diagnosis](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/rising-rates-of-diagnosis/) - ADD / ADHD is the most common neurobehavioral disorder of childhood. The number of children in North America diagnosed with this disorder has skyrocketed in the last 30 years (skyrocketing means in the thousands of %). The number of adults being diagnosed has increased dramatically also. The rise in some parts of the - [Does Physical Exercise Help Kids with ADHD ?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/does-physical-exercise-help-kids-with-adhd/) - There have been literally thousands of studies conducted on different treatment approaches for children with ADHD focusing on cognitive, academic achievement, behaviour and psychosocial functioning that have resulted in numerous treatment options ( medication, diet, sleep, cognitive behaviour therapy, family therapy, chiropractic adjustments, biofeedback, etc. etc. etc.). It is interesting to note that I - [Mom's Manifesto](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/moms-manifesto/) - This was taken from Kirk Martin's newsletter (www.celebrate calm.com) and is worthy to pass on to parents who are being "stretched" by the attitudes and behaviour of their teenage children. Mom's Manifesto for Personal and Family Sanity (what I will do and what I'll stop doing) 1. I will stop telling you what you should - [Teen Suicide](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/teen-suicide/) - Statistics: 1. suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death among 15 to 24 year olds (after car accidents) 2. for every suicide completion, there are between 100 and 200 attempts 3. 15% of teens report suicide ideation Myths: a) young people rarely think about suicide - FALSE b) talking about suicide will give young - [ADHD in the Classroom](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/adhd-in-the-classroom/) - Many children with ADHD are in constant motion. Classroom settings pose a particular problem for them as they wiggle, squirm, talk out and annoy their neighbours. It is important for teachers and parents to understand that these behaviours are not the result of the children intentionally choosing to behave in this way. It is an - [Living With & Treating Depression in Young People](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/living-with-treating-depression-in-young-people/) - RECOGNIZING, LIVING WITH AND TREATING DEPRESSION IN YOUNG PEOPLE--------------------------------------------- Living with someonewho is depressedcan bea profoundly depressing experience --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Parents of teens expect mood swings, highs and lows and challenges to authority that are part of normal adolescence. But being a parent of a depressed young person can be a very daunting, overwhelming experience. It often produces dramatic - [CYC Job Placement](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/cyw-job-placement/) - Best wishes to the Fanshawe College (Woodstock campus) Child and Youth Counsellor students who are about to begin a 4 month work placement. These work experiences in the community allow students to put the theoretical knowledge they gain from their academic courses into practice in the real world. The CYC program is a 3 year - [Depression - What It Is & What It Is Not](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/depression-what-it-is-what-it-is-not/) - Depression is not: - a sign of weakness - a punishment for past wrongs - a flaw in a person’s character or personality - the young person’s fault It is an illness that results in: - emotional changes - physical changes - cognitive changes - behavioural changes HOW COMMON IS IT ?- between 5-15% of - [The Golden rules of Temper Tantrums](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-golden-rules-of-temper-tantrums/) - Tantrums are a normal part of a child's development. Always remember the boy Scouts motto: Be Prepared. Never look around at the faces of those people watching you when your child is having a tantrum in public. The more involved you are with your child's tantrum, the longer it will last. Remember to catch him - [Consequencing Teenagers](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/consequencing-teenagers/) - Identifying and following through on appropriate consequences is a major part of the job description for parents of teenagers. A consequence for inappropriate behaviour typically involves one of two options: a) removing a desirable (example - removal of computer privileges) b) adding an undesirable (example - adding a chore) Removing something the teen wants is - [Depression - the stress "triggers"](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/depression-the-stress-triggers/) - THE STRESS “TRIGGERS” “Bad” things happen to kids - 1/2 of Canadian families go through divorce - 1/4 of Canadian women report having been sexually abused - parents, siblings, friends die The overwhelmingly majority of children are remarkably resilient and emerge from the “bad” things relatively unscathed. Those predisposed to anxiety and depression sometimes develop major depression after - [The Teenage Brain](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-teenage-brain/) - THE TEENAGE BRAIN Adolescence is one of the times in an individual's life when the greatest brain development is occurring. - brain changes in size and shape- gray matter thickens- increase in synaptic connections between brain cells- specialization within brain occurs- “pruning” of pathways- sex hormones impact on brain Neurotransmitters are chemicals in the brain that facilitate the - [Temper Tantrum (statistics)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/temper-tantrum-statistics/) - 1 year old = 14% have tantrums daily 2-3 years old = 20% have tantrums daily 4 years old = 11% have tantrums daily 5-6 years old = 5% have tantrums daily Adults have tantrums, but we usually say they're "making a - [Temper Tantrums](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/temper-tantrums/) - Tantrums are a normal and healthy part of the developing process for children. They are sometimes the only way a little one can tell us they disagree, feel frustrated, are tired or hungry or overwhelmed or bored. Their language skills and understanding of feelings and relationships have not developed to the point where intense feelings - [Consequencing Teenagers](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/consequencing-teenagers-2/) - Identifying and following through on appropriate consequences is a necessary but challenging task for many parents of teenagers . A consequence for inappropriate behaviour typically involves one of two directions: a) removing a desirable ( example - removal of computer privileges) b) adding an undesirable (example - extra chores) Removing something the teen wants - [All Day Kindergarten](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/all-day-kindergarten/) - Ontario has instituted funding all day/everyday kindergarten for children as young as 3 1/2 years old. Current research on the developing brain facilitated by modern imaging equipment shows the language areas of the brain of many little boys is about 1 1/2 years behind little girls. Timing is everything. It is not enough to teach - [Underarm Hair](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/underarm-hair/) - One of the rights of passage for boys entering puberty is the growth of underarm hair. Every boy is eager for this milestone to occur as they regularly count each hairs emergence. It is a good idea for parents to demonstrate a positive attitude towards their child's excitement as it gives us an opening for - [Sex Change](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/sex-change/) - "Our universities have undergone a sex change !" I recently attended a conference presented by Dr. Leonard Sax (M.D., Ph.D.) who shared the following data from Statistics Canada: 1971 - 68% of Canadian university graduates were male 1981 - 54% were male 1991 - 51% were male 2001 - 42% were male 2006 - 40% - [Eating Out with a Toddler (survival tips)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/eating-out-with-a-toddler-survival-tips/) - Taking a young child to a restaurant can be challenging but it doesn't have to be a disaster. Planning your outing is the key. 1. Timing - choose a time when your child is rested and the restaurant is less likely to be very busy 2. distract - pack a "survival kit" containing items that - [So what is the best advice regarding meds for ADD/ADHD?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/so-what-is-the-best-advice-regarding-meds-for-addadhd/) - James Garbarino (a noted American psychologist) answers that question this way: "When prescribed for very specific conditions after a thorough exploration of psychological and social conditions in the child's life, and with appreciation that the principal interventions needed for such children are behavioural and intellectual, some drugs make sense. However, the overall pattern in the - [Sibling Rivalry](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/sibling-rivalry/) - Sibling rivalry has existed as long as we’ve had siblings! In Biblical times we had Cain and Abel, Joseph and his brother problems. In children’s stories we have Cinderella. It seems that rivalry naturally follows the word sibling despite the fact that there are many solid sibling relationships within families.Conflict between siblings isn’t unique to - [Phobias](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/phobias/) - Phobias are a type of anxiety disorder usually defined as a persistent fear of an object or situation typically disproportional to the actual danger posed. There are literally hundreds and hundreds of phobias (see - www.phobialist.com). Some of the more common ones are: dogs - [Long Term Effects of FASD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/long-term-effects-of-fasd/) - Brain damage in utero lasts a lifetime! The resulting disabilities can severely impair the quality of life for the child, for the family and for society. LIFE IMPLICATIONS easily victimized unfocused, distractible money management problems doesn't learn from mistakes doesn't understand consequences fails to perceive social cues quick to anger difficult relationships lack initative drops - [ADD/ADHD - The Classic Triad](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/addadhd-the-classic-triad/) - 1. Inattention 2. Impulsive 3. Hyperactivity ADD/ADHD children often manifest so much more than the classic triad. They frequently exhibit: poor self control over responsiveness easily frustrated poor self talk trouble shifting gears poor recall of past poor future planning These behaviours stem from an inability to INHIBIT their desires. They are so caught up - [What is Ritalin?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/what-is-ritalin/) - the chemical name is methylphenidate it is an amphetamine it is a controlled drug it is in the stimulant class of drugs it is a performance enhancer it is a banned drug for international athletic competitions it has an abuse potential it is sometimes prescribed for narcolepsy (a sleep disorder characterized by recurring, irrepressible attacks - [Famous People Who May Have Had ADHD!](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/famous-people-who-may-have-had-adhd/) - A diagnosis of ADHD does not mean your child is destined to have trouble for the rest of his or her life. The following people have been diagnosed with ADHD or could have been based on accounts of their behaviour as a child. Beethoven Henry Ford Louis Pasteur Winston Churchill Albert Einstein (failed grade 6 - [Post Adoption Resources](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/post-adoption-resources/) - Children born into a biological family seldom reflect on what it means to be a family. The dynamics evolve into a familiar and comfortable routine that we just take for granted. Children who enter the family through adoption have probably been in several foster homes and do not have a sense of what "family" - [READING RESCUE](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-4/) - Can You Read This? I cdnuolt bleveiee taht I cluod aulaaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdenieg. The phaonemneal pweor of the hmuan mndi. Aodccrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dnsoe’t mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be in the - [](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/1844/) - Relationships matter: change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people. - [Depression in Young People](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/depression-in-young-people/) - The recent death of Robin Williams by an apparent suicide has once again brought the issue of depression to the forefront. 20 years ago depression was not diagnosed in young people. Today, experts recognize that it affects a significant percentage of preteens and teens. Depression is not: a sign of weakness a punishment for past - [The quickest](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/1782/) - The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own. - [School Starts in 1 Month - 10 things to do to be ready if you child has ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/school-starts-in-1-month-10-things-to-do-to-be-ready-if-you-child-has-adhd/) - 1. Review his I.E.P (Individual Educational Plan) - consider which educational goals have been met and which ones still require accommodation - meet with school team before school starts - bring last year's report card, samples of work, discuss what worked last year, discuss goals for this year and the accommodations required 2. If the - [Question from a parent of a 10 year old girl.](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/question-from-a-parent-of-a-10-year-old-girl/) - Question: "What can I do when my daughter kicks up a big fuss about having to go with the family to my 7 year old son's soccer game? My Suggestion: Tell her - "Honey, you do not have to go to the game. Dad can take him and I'll stay with you. But understand that - [Medication for Bedwetting](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/medication-for-bedwetting/) - Another treatment direction to consider is medication. The upside of medication is the ease, convenience and speed with which it works (sometimes on the first day). The downside of medication is of course the risk of side effects and the fact that once the medication stops, the enuresis is likely to start up again. There - [Dry Bed Training](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/dry-bed-training-3/) - Dry Bed Training (Part 1) Many of the parents who contact me regarding behaviour issues with their children also deal with bed wetting, and dry bed training is sometimes a secondary goal that we address. First the Good News ! 1. Bedwetting is not an illness. 2. Bedwetting is not the child's fault. 3. Bedwetting - [Moisture Alarms](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/moisture-alarms/) - Getting To Dry - Moisture Alarms Moisture alarms is a treatment alternative that is based on the theory that bedwetting is caused by "deep sleep". The problem with this hypothesis is that it has not been demonstrated that bedwetters are any deeper sleepers than non bedwetters. There are 2 types of alarm systems: - wearable - - [Advice for Parents re: getting to dry](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/advice-for-parents-re-getting-to-dry/) - Advice for parents re: bladder training It makes some sense to reduce the intake of water after supper. Even adults who have consumed larger amounts to drink shortly before bedtime may find themselves being wakened more in the middle of the night by the urge to go to the bathroom. For a bed wetting child, - [Getting to Dry - continued](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/getting-to-dry-continued/) - Bladder Training (Part 3 - continued) There was an interesting experiment a few years ago at a hospital in Helsinki, Finland. The researchers divided a number of enuretic children ranging in age from 6 to 13 into 2 groups. One group was repeatedly instructed NOT to drink anything at all in the evening. The other - [Dry Bed Training (part 3)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/dry-bed-training-part-3/) - Dry Bed Training (Part 3) Treatment Options # 1-4 1.Habit Changing - reduce fluid intake after supper may be a reasonable start - reduce fluids containing caffeine - ensure the child "completely" voids before bed 2. Rewards & Punishments - using rewards and punishments for a behaviour while sleeping us usually a no win situation - [Dry Bed Training (part 2)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/dry-bed-training-part-2/) - Dry Bed Training (Part 2) Bedwetting is a "pain" for everybody - particularly for the child: - waking up cold & wet feels horrible - bathing every morning isn't fun for a little kid - skin irritations hurt - siblings can be cruel - overnight camp is out of the question - sleep overs at - [Behaviour Management Course for EA's, ECE's, CYW's, DSW's, and PSW's](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/behaviour-management-course-for-eas-eces-cyws-dsws-and-psws/) - School Boards and agencies are requiring EA's, ECE's, CYW's, DSW's and PSW's to receive an upgrading or refresher course in their behaviour management skills. Behavioural Management Systems is responding to this need by offering a custom designed course that is convenient, flexible and affordable. Simply e-mail (info@rickharper.ca) or phone (519) 485-4678 for details. A course - [Book launch - "The Promise" - a must read for foster/adoptive parents](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/book-launch-the-promise-a-must-read-for-all-fosteradoptive-parents/) - I had the privilege of attending the launch of a new book that should be read by all adoptive and foster parents (actually all parents). Written by an adoptive mother (Christen Shepherd) and a support worker (Lisa Highfield), this book deals with the arrival of 4 needy children into the Shepherd home and chronicles their - [Upcoming Workshop](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/upcoming-workshop/) - Fanshawe College (Tillsonburg campus) is offering the workshop "A Parent's Guide to the Teenage Brain" on Monday, May 12, 6:30-9:30. Registration for this course can be made by calling Fanshawe (519) 421-0144. A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain with fewer kilometres on it. - [Crash Test Mommy/Daddy](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/crash-test-mommydaddy/) - I had an opportunity last week to present the workshop "Crash Test Mommy/Daddy" to the parents and staff of Acorn Christian Day Care in London. This 2 hour workshop is filled with time tested strategies for dealing with issues with real kids by real parents. Thanks to all who attended. If your group would be - [Brain Fact # 15 (my last for this year)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-fact-15-my-last-for-this-year/) - This is the last week of classes for the CYW students at the Woodstock campus of Fanshawe College. I want to thank you for a wonderful semester as your questions, interest and enthusiasm for learning has been good for stimulating my brain. I wish you all the best as you continue your journey. Keep on - [Brain Fact # 8](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-fact-8/) - What is learning and how does it occur? Dr. James Zull (a noted neurologist and teacher at Case Western University) answered. What is learning? "Learning is physical. Learning means the modification, growth and pruning of our neural networks, through experience." How does learning happen? "There are 4 stages in the "learning cycle": - [Did You Know ? # 3](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-3/) - One of the biggest threats to a developing fetus is maternal malnutrition, whether caused by famine, poverty or dieting. A particularly critical time is the 3rd trimester, when brain size is increasing rapidly. - [Did You Know ? # 2](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-2/) - A newborn’s brain uses 70% of the calories consumed for brain development and function. An adult’s brain uses only 18% of the calories to function. A breast fed infant attaches to the breast faster if it bears natural odour than if it has been washed. - [Brain Facts # 5](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-facts-5/) - Lifelong Neuroplasticity Historically, it was thought that the human brain was a fixed and essentially limited system that only degraded with age. This view saw the brain as a rigid machine in many ways, pretty much set after childhood. By contrast, we have now come to appreciate that the human brain is actually a - [Did You Know ? # 14](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-14/) - Consistent small rewards for small achievements work much better than large rewards for big goals, especially for younger children. Growing up under conditions of deprivation can damage children’s brains - [Brain Fact # 12](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/staying-fit-improves-cognition/) - Staying Fit Improves Cognition Physical exercise triggers increased brain growth and translates into measurable improvements in cognitive function. Studies proving this initially were conducted on participants aged 50+. Two studies conducted by Dr. Arthur Kramer in 2010 on higher-fit and lower-fit 10 year old children confirmed that physical fitness in children is also associated with - [Did You Know ? # 13](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-13/) - Ritalin (stimulant medication for ADHD) was first synthesized in 1944 by a chemist and he named it after his wife, Rita. She had low blood pressure and she used it to pump herself up before tennis games. Heavy marijuana use during adolescence increases the risk of schizophrenia in people with a particular variant of the - [Did You Know ? # 12](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-12/) - People who have spoken 2 languages actively for their entire lives experience the onset of dementia 4 years later on average than their peers who spoke only 1 language The brain cannot concentrate well on more than one thing at once. - [Did You Know ? # 11](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-11/) - Growing up in a weight obsessed culture is particularly difficult for girls. Healthy puberty requires the addition of body fat in the form of breasts and hips, at just the age when girls are particularly sensitive to body image. Girls talk with each other during play more than boys do. - [Did You Know ? # 10](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-10/) - We have big brains. This is one of the things that distinguishes humans from other primates, and it has many consequences. One is that because women’s hips are only so big, babies have to be born before their brains have grown to full size. - [Did You Know ? # 9](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-9/) - Babies first attempt to “talk” at around 2 months when they begin cooing sounds, the least complicated speech sounds to produce. Some consonant sounds follow around 5 months, when babbling begins. Early babbling sounds the same in all babies regardless of their native language. Around the end of the first year, babbling starts to include - [Did You Know ? # 8](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-8/) - To superficial appearances, the adolescent brain appears to be nearly complete. In fact it is still undergoing considerable reorganization. Depression, bipolar disorder, drug addiction and schizophrenia become increasingly prevalent during adolescence. - [Did You Know ? # 7 ](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-7/) - Gender influenced toy preferences in children are seen across cultures beginning around 1 year of age. Male monkeys prefer to play with trucks while female monkey prefer to play with dolls. Juvenile male monkeys show more rough and tumble play than female monkeys - [Did You Know ? # 6](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-6/) - If you show a baby a series of pictures of cats, the appearance of a dog will attract a long look. This means that babies can distinguish cats from dogs – a feat that is extremely difficult to program into a computer. - [Did You Know # 5](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-5/) - You cannot tickle yourself because you cannot generate strong enough signals in your cerebellum to make you react. Your cerebellum kicks into overdrive however if the touch comes from someone else. - [Did You Know ? # 4](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/did-you-know-4/) - During pregnancy, environmental toxins can cause significant brain damage to a developing fetus if ingested by mother. Abstaining from smoking and alcohol is a priceless gift to give your unborn baby. - [Brain Fact # 14](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-fact-14/) - Dr. Larry McCleary (Chief of Pediatric Neurosurgery at Denver Children's Hospital) was asked the following question: What is the single most important brain-related idea or concept that you would like every person on the planet to fully understand? His answer: "The most important take home message about brain health is that we now know that no - [Brain Fact # 10](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-fact-10/) - Brain Plasticity Dr. Pascual-Leone was asked "How does plasticity work in the brain? How fast do changes occur? "There are different steps in neuroplasticity. One is a very rapid expansion of brain matter, which can be seen in about 1 week (for instance when someone is learning how to play a difficult finger sequence on - [Brain Fact # 9](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/brain-fact-9/) - A Healthy Brain Dr. Alvaro Pascual-Leone, a professor of neurology at Harvard Medical School was asked - "Is there one main characteristic of a healthy brain?" His answer - "There are 100 billion neurons in the brain. Each neuron has about 10,000 connections (synapses) to other cells. We have 1 quintillion (10 to the 18th) - [](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/1506/) - If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated! - [Reading Rescue - the sequence - steps 4 , 5, 6](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-the-sequence-steps-4-5-6/) - Step # 4 Use the Blending Book to introduce the long vowel sound "a" with the silent "e". Add the other long vowel sounds with silent "e" at an appropriate pace. Step # 5 Introduce the consonant blends (eg. "br", "cl", "sm", etc.) and the digraphs (eg. "ch", "th", etc.) Step # 6 Once the - [Reading Rescue - the sequence - step 2 & 3](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-the-sequence-step-2-3/) - Step 2 Once the child can match and produce the correct sounds for the letters in grouping # 1, introduce the short sound "a" from list 2. Step 3 The blending od sounds together is frequently a problem for some children. A Blending Book is used to address this problem. The child is shown a - [Reading Rescue - the sequence -step 1](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-the-sequence-step-1/) - The initial skill required in reading is to be able to match a specific sound with a letter. Example: "m" says ___________ "s" says ____________ Reading Rescue uses Cue Cards to help children make the connection between letter and sound. On one side of the Cue Card is a printed letter and on the other - [Reading Rescue - theory part 3](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-theory-part-4/) - Most children are able to learn the basic individual skills needed for reading in the conventional manner and begin to assimilate the more obscure skills on their own and become proficient readers as you have done. There are however a significant % of children who for a variety of reasons have been unable to grasp - [Now Try To Read This!](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/now-try-to-read-this/) - Theparagraphyoureadafewpostingsagowasprobablyeasiertoreadthanthisoneeventhoughthespellingofeach wordiscorrectthereasonthisoneismoredifficulttoreadisbecausetheothercluesweuseinreadingsuchassize ofwordinitialandfinalsoundspunctuationandcontextcannotbeeasilyseenbyyourbrainwhenallthelettersandwordsarejust jammedtogetherreadingclearlyisacomplexskillthismayevengiveyouaheadachekeepreadingandyouwillbeable toreadthetranslationwithanytrouble Translation: The paragraph you read a few postings ago was probably easier to read than this one even though the spelling of each word is correct. The reason this is more difficult to read is because the other clues we use in reading such as size of word, initial and - [Reading Rescue - theory Part 2](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-theory-part-3/) - My blog entry on November 23 presented a paragraph to read that broke all the rules for reading. You did not use your phonics skills or your whole language skills to read the passage as none of them conformed to the rules of reading. and yet you were able to read it by using a - [Can You Read This?](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/can-you-read-this/) - I cdnuolt bleveiee taht I cluod aulaaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdenieg. The phaonemneal pweor of the hmuan mndi. Aodccrnig to a rscheearch at Cmabrigde Uinervtisy, it dnsoe't mttaer in waht oredr the ltteers in a wrod are, the olny iprmoatnt is taht the frist and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset - [Quotes from the Medical Minority re: ADD/ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/quotes-from-the-medical-minority-re-addadhd/) - As mentioned in a previous blog, there is no consensus among the medical community regarding the cause and treatments for ADD/ADHD. In fact there are even doctors who question whether ADD/ADHD even exists. This medical minority believe that the individuals diagnosed with this disorder are nothing more than people who occupy one extreme end of - [](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/1413/) - The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara) - [ADD / ADHD - The Triad of Symptoms](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/add-adhd-the-triad-of-symptoms/) - [The Really "Ugly" Side of Stimulant Meds for ADHD](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-really-ugly-side-of-stimulant-meds-for-adhd/) - What are the really bad things that can happen? Stimulant meds are in the same class as morphine and barbiturates the potential for abuse is real abusers report cocaine-like effects Large doses give feelings of : euphoria more energy sense of power As effects wear off: heightened fatigue irritability, depression craving for more Persistent use - [Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/adolescence-can-be-the-cruelest-place-on-earth-it-can-really-be-heartless-heartless/) - Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless. ( Tori Amos) - [Parents aren't](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/parents-arent/) - "Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.) - [Teen Issues 2](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/teen-issues-2/) - The good old days when you were a teen aren't as different today as you think. For example, between 1978 and 2008 the average age for drinking alcohol for the first time went from 16.3 years of age to 16.2 the age for smoking the first cigarette went from 15.2 years to 16.1 the age - [Crash Test Mommy / Daddy in Aylmer](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/crash-test-mommy-daddy-in-aylmer/) - I will once again be presenting a workshop to the parents of Davenport Public School in Aylmer. This time it is "Crash Test Mommy / Daddy" and it is a 2 hour presentation that is filled with sanity saving strategies to deal with behaviour issues of children ranging in age from toddlers to teens. Date: - [Child & Youth Worker - Fanshawe College](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/child-youth-worker-fanshawe-college-2/) - I am looking forward to the upcoming semester starting January 7 as Fanshawe College (Woodstock campus) begins its CWY program for 2013. I am privileged to teach the course "Fundamentals of Human Learning" to the first year students. This program is a 3 year diploma program that prepares students to work with young people in - [Narcissism](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/narcissism/) - Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism. - [Reward/punishment](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/rewardpunishment/) - It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate). - [clinicians](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/clininians/) - Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist) - [Moehringer](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/moehringer/) - "To be a man, a boy must see a man." (J.R. Moehringer) - [Sax](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/sax/) - We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D) - [Zito](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/zito/) - There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland) - [Taming a Toddler - Hamilton CAS](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/taming-a-toddler-hamilton-cas/) - I extend thanks to Sandra Chan of the Hamilton Children's Aid Society for inviting me to present "Taming a Toddler" to an enthusiastic group of foster moms. We shared many ideas and laughs about the joys and challenges of raising a toddler. The Hamilton CAS has well over 100 foster homes who provide for the - [Criticism is not a motivator.](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/criticism-is-not-a-motivator/) - Criticism is not a motivator. - [The mistake that Sharon and I made is we never set any boundaries.](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-mistake-that-sharon-and-i-made-is-we-never-set-any-boundaries/) - The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries. (Ozzy Osbourne) - [If you are headed in the wrong direction](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/if-you-are-headed-in-the-wrong-direction/) - If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn. - [Foster Parent Training in Hamilton](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/foster-parent-training-in-hamilton/) - I had an opportunity to present the workshop "Taming a Toddler" to an enthusiastic group of foster and adoptive parents in Hamilton last night. Did you know that parents of toddlers are 3 times more at risk of psychological breakdown than parents of babies or school age children. The toddler stage (age 1-4) is the - [Recent Workshops](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/recent-workshops/) - I extend thanks to: 1. Davenport Public School parent council in Aylmer for inviting me to present the workshop "A Parent's Guide to the Teenage Brain" 2. Hamilton Children's Aid society for offering the workshop "A Guided Tour of ADD/ADHD to foster and adoptive parents. Both workshops were well attended and much valuable information was - [Foster Parent Training in Brantford](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/foster-parent-training-in-brantford/) - I had an opportunity recently to present the workshop "Working With Birth Parents" to a welcoming group of foster parents affiliated with the Children's Aid Society of Brant. I extend thanks to Carrie Davidson and Keri Brook for their efforts in arranging and organizing this training event. The legal responsibility of the CAS is to - [Upcoming Workshop (Teenage Brain)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/upcoming-workshop-teenage-brain/) - I will be presenting a workshop open to the public on October 22, 6:30-9:30 at the Woodstock campus of Fanshawe College. The title of the workshop is "A Parent's Guide to the Teenage Brain" A teenager's brain is not just an adult brain with fewer kilometres on it. It is a brain that is not - [Suicide Threats - Do's & Don'ts](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/suicide-threats-dos-donts/) - DO’S & DON’TS WITH A SUICIDE THREATDO: 1. stay calm 2. talk to him - listen - don’t try to “talk” him out of how he is feeling - don’t try to cheer him up - show concern - reassure person you know how to get help - ascertain how well thought out the - [Suicide](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/suicide/) - THE NIGHTMARE of SUICIDEJournal entry“ I’m surprised I haven’t done it yet because I feel really terrible all the time. I just don’t have any courage but anyone else in my position would have already committed suicide.” Rachel age 15 - the peak age for suicide attempts is 16 - 19% of teens seriously consider - [Helping Kids Through Traumatic Events](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/helping-kids-through-traumatic-events/) - HELPING A SUSCEPTIBLE KID THROUGH A HORRIBLE EVENTExample - September 11 - limit TV - constant bombarding of images reinforces anxiety - message should be clear: - this is horrible - it’s frightening - but we are not helpless or hopeless - there are things being done - the situation will improve - the government - [Types of Depression](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/types-of-depression/) - TYPES OF DEPRESSION DIAGNOSED IN YOUNG PEOPLE(the Oxford Psychiatric Dictionary lists 25 different types of depression) a) MAJOR DEPRESSIVE DISORDER (MDD) - serious depression lasts an average of 7-9 months - similar to adult depression in some ways - sadness - pessimism - sleep & appetite disturbance - decrease in concentration - dissimilar in some ways - [Reading Rescue](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-2/) - A program for children with reading problems - [trauma](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/trauma/) - Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory. - [relationship](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/relationship/) - If there is no relationship - nothing else matters ! - [time](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/time/) - The best inheritance parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day. - [Child & Youth Worker - Fanshawe College](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/child-youth-worker-fanshawe-college/) - Congratulations are extended to the Fanshawe College students who are just completing their academic semester in the Child & Youth Worker program at the Woodstock campus. It is a 3 year diploma program that equips students to work in classrooms, group homes, treatment centres, detention facilities, etc. The program involves 3 academic semesters plus 3 - [Workshop - "It's a Guy Thing, It's a Girl Thing"](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/workshop-its-a-guy-thing-its-a-girl-thing/) - I will be presenting a workshop entitled "It's a Guy Thing, It's a Girl Thing" at the Woodstock campus of Fanshawe College on May 16 from 6:30 to 9:30 PM. Enclosed is a description: "Be prepared for an "aha" experience. Are boys different from girls? Do they think, play, learn, hear, talk differently? Finally modern - [Recent Training Events](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/recent-training-events/) - I recently had the opportunity to present 2 different workshops for foster and adoptive parents through the London and Middlesex Children's Aid Society. 20 people attended "Fostering - Take This Job and Love It" on February 29 and 27 people attended "The Difficult Child" on March 21. Feedback from both events was very positive with - [people](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/people/) - Hurt people hurt people. - [labour](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/labour/) - If it was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour". - [Crash Test Mommy / Daddy](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/crash-test-mommy-daddy/) - River Heights Public School in Dorchester Ontario is offering a free workshop called "Crash Test Mommy / Daddy" on the evening of January 25, 2012. This workshop by parent educator Rick Harper will provide numerous ideas on how to respond to a wide range of children's behaviours. Rick's presentations are always positively received. Below are - [Workshop - Crash Test Mommy / Daddy](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/workshop-crash-test-mommy-daddy/) - The River Heights Public School parent council has arranged with me to present a workshop entitled "Crash Test Mommy/Daddy" on the evening of January 25, 2012. More info to follow. - [You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/you-cannot-reason-with-someone-who-is-being-unreasonable/) - You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable. - [Reading Rescue - short "u" words](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-short-u-words/) - The following list of words can be helpful when teaching Step # 3 of Reading Rescue: fun mug sun nut sub rug mud muff mum run rub hug gum but dug cut cup pup bus us up must drum hunt dust jump rust punch much brush flush stung trust hunch lunch club luck snug puck - [Reading Rescue - short "o" words](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-short-o-words/) - The following list of words all contain the short "o" sound and will be helpful when working on step 3 of Reading Rescue: mop mob rob top jot cob got jog tot rot box hot ox bog fox hop dot cop log sock spot stop crop smog rock slot lock pond from drop bond clock - [Reading Rescue - short "a" words](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/reading-rescue-short-a-words/) - The following list of words all contain the short vowel sound for "a" and will be helpful for step # 3 of Reading Rescue; man mat ran rat fat sad map mad lap sat rag sap lab an cat am cap ant can jam had camp mask hash lamp clap damp pack snap flag path - [Behaviour Management Workshop](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/behaviour-management-workshop/) - I will be presenting a 2 evening, 6 hour workshop on Behaviour Management at the Woodstock campus of Fanshawe College on September 20 and 27 from 6:30 to 9:30. This workshop is suitable for parents, teachers, daycare staff, social workers, etc. I will be introducing you to the skills, techniques and strategies required to assess - [Unexpressed feelings](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/unexpressed-feelings/) - "Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey) - [](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/455/) - "The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children" (King Edward VII , 1841-1910) - [Training Session at Betamarsh](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/training-session-at-betamarsh/) - On Wednesday, April 20 I had an opportunity to present a training session to the staff of Betamarsh in Goderich Ontario. The all day session focused on assessing and treating children's behavioural problems. Betamarsh provides a long-term therapeutic placement for troubled children, adolescents and young adults in a safe and nurturing environment. The goal of - [“The Difficult Child” – workshop](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-difficult-child-workshop/) - I will be presenting a workshop entitled "The Difficult Child" at Fanshawe College at the Tillsonburg campus on Wednesday, April 27, 2011 from 6:30 tp 9:30 pm. The cost is $47 and you may register by phoning (519) 421-0144 or (519) 842-9000 ext. 225) Do you find your child difficult to raise? Do you find - [Don't wait ...](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/dont-wait/) - Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him. - [Face of Facebook (bullying)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/face-of-facebook-bullying/) - I had an opportunity last night to attend a presentation by Katie Cole (Thames Valley District School Board) which focused on the ugly side of social media. My reason for going was that I am not at all into these modern forms of communicating (Facebook, Twitter, etc) but I am frequently asked to deal with - [Behaviour Management](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/behaviour-management/) - Learn the skills, techniques and strategies to assess and manage a wide range of behaviour problems from toddlers to teens - [Parenting a Teen Without Losing Your Mind](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/parenting-a-teen-without-losing-your-mind/) - This sanity saving workshop explores the bewildering years of a teenager and offers ideas for dealing with issues such as drugs, booze, sex, skipping school, curfew, etc. - [Crash Test Mommy](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/crash-test-mommy/) - How to eliminate the daily battles and end the yelling, nagging, pleading, frustrations - [Autism - A World Apart](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/autism-a-world-apart/) - This workshop will present the latest ideas concerning the diagnosis and treatments associated with autism. Emphasis will be placed on the practical aspects of the disorder, how it impacts family life and education and coping strategies. Suitable for parents, teachers, daycare staff, social workers, etc. (3 hours) - [Living with a Child With Fetal Alcohol Related Behaviour Problems](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/living-with-a-child-with-fetal-alcohol-related-behaviour-problems/) - This workshop offers solid information and practical advice for dealing with FASD/FAE's lifelong effects on behaviour and learning. It addresses historical, medical, educational and societal aspects of FASD and details common behavioural characteristics associated with the condition. The workshop is presented in a developmental format and gives specific behavioural management strategies that are appropriate for - [Behaviour Management in the Classroom](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/behaviour-management-in-the-classroom/) - "I go home from school every night exhausted from the constant power struggles!" "10% of the students in my class cause 90% of the behaviour problems!" "Managing the children in my class takes as much time and energy as teaching them!" "Teaching isn't fun anymore. I don't know how much longer I can keep doing - [Schizophrenia in Young People - How Parents Can Help](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/schizophrenia-in-young-people-how-parents-can-help/) - Schizophrenia is a cruel disease that attacks about 8 people out of every 1000. It often strikes in the adolescent years just as opportunities for most people are beginning to unfold. The financial costs involved in dealing with schizophrenia are staggering and the human costs within families are incalculable. This workshop will examine the nature, - [The 5 "Conventional" Options](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-5-conventional-options/) - All the ideas regarding treating behavioural problems from the “conventional” experts could be placed into 1 of 5 broad categories. 1. medical 2. biochemical 3. counselling 4. skills acquisition 5. behavioural The next series of blog entries will summarize what these categories entail. 1. Medical One of experts that parents turn to for help is - [The "Biochemical" Option](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-biochemical-option/) - Assuming the doctor has not found a "clearly definable" medical problem, another option to consider is biochemical. The words you use to describe your child's behaviour may suggest to the doctor that there is a problem with the biochemistry of the brain. Brain chemistry abnormalities is theorized to be the cause of many disorders that - [Counselling](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/counselling-2/) - Another option commonly pursued in finding solutions to children’s behaviour problems is counselling. The approaches in this grouping represent very broad and divergent directions, but all of them employ communication between a therapist and the client. At one extreme end of the counselling continuum we have psychotherapy. Theories developed by Sigmund Freud and his adherents - [The "Skills Acquisition" Approach](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-skills-acquisition-approach/) - The skills acquisition approach assumes that the source of the behaviour problems lie in a skills deficit. This means that the child cannot do something or doesn’t know something that directly leads into an inappropriate behaviour. The skills acquisition people state that once the child learns the missing skill, the undesirable behaviors will fade away, - ["Alternative" Approaches](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/alternative-approaches/) - The preceding 5 approaches could be described as the "conventional" approaches to changing behaviour. There are of course other directions one could look, but they would be categorized more as "alternative" approaches. I do not mean to belittle them in any way, it is just that they are more "outside the box" and they generally - [Good Parenting Requires](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/good-parenting-requires/) - Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes - [Children today are under](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/children-today-are-under/) - Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared. - [Adolescence](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/adolescence/) - The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence. - [Archive Test](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/archive-test/) - This is a test of the archive. - [Some hope their children](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/337/) - Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children. - ["Moody" and "unpredictable"](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/moody-and-unpredictable/) - "Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers. - [Whining and crying are](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/whining-and-crying-are/) - Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated. - [The teenage years require a delicate](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-teenage-years-require-a-delicate/) - The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority. - [When a child is disregulated ](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/when-a-child-is-disregulated/) - When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated. - [Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/wouldnt-it-be-nice-if-children-would-simply-listen-and-learn/) - Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn. - [Simple rules adhered](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/simple-rules-adhered/) - Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later. - [The more 2 parents ](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/the-more-2-parents/) - The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child. - [Children fare better](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/children-fare-better/) - Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm. - [A tantruming toddler](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/a-tantruming-toddler/) - A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket. - [It is what we say](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/it-is-what-we-say/) - It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations. - [Early intervention](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/294/) - Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing. - [Parents are the external](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/291/) - Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves. - [Parenting style matters - a lot!](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/293/) - Parenting style matters - a lot! - [Children do not develop on their own](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/295/) - Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships. - [(E.K. - London)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/e-k-london/) - "He is a wealth of knowledge coupled with first hand experience." 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Thankfully you led us 'out of the wilderness'" (N.S. - London) - [(T.T. - Byron)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/t-t-byron/) - "I wish we had found Rick 2 years ago. We could have saved ourselves and our son a lot of trouble." (T.T. - Byron) - [ (A.N. - Tillsonburg)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/a-n-tillsonburg/) - "Rick's approach is so logical. He helped us clearly define the problem, analyze what has happened and select the best strategy. We now feel empowered to do something positive for our kid" (A.N. - Tillsonburg) - [(B.F. - Woodstock)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/b-f-woodstock/) - "Implementing Rick's techniques and adhering to them is exhausting, but it is a healthy exhaustion rather than the detrimental exhaustion I used to experience." (B.F. - Woodstock) - [(P.S. - London)](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/p-s-london/) - "I am no longer overwhelmed with a child who has unending discipline and behaviour problems." (P.S. - London) - [T.N. - London](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/t-n-london/) - "You have changed our life! Thanks, it needed changing!" (T.N. - London) - [Fostering - Take This Job and Love It!](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/fostering-take-this-job-and-love-it/) - Learn to manage the stresses inherent in sharing your home and family with a child in need. ## Pages - [About Rick](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/about-us/) - Rick is a retired school teacher with 32 years classroom experience. The vast majority of those years was working with special needs children ranging in age from 4 to 21 and diagnosed with conditions such as: Learning disabled Psychiatric disorders eg. ADHD, Tourettes syndrome, conduct disorder, autism, obsessive compulsive disorder, etc Developmentally disabled Emotionally disturbed - [Workshops](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/workshops/) - This is the workshops page. - [The 5 "Conventional" Options](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/blog/) - All the ideas regarding treating behavioural problems from the “conventional” experts could be placed into 1 of 5 broad categories. 1. medical 2. biochemical 3. counselling 4. skills acquisition 5. behavioural The next series of blog entries will summarize what these categories entail. 1. Medical One of experts that parents turn to for help is - [Services](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/services/) - Private Consultation Behavioural Management Systems is a totally private and independent training and consulting business. We are dedicated to assisting parents develop, implement and monitor programs to decrease the rate, duration and intensity of inappropriate behaviours of their children. Experts from various disciplines (medical, psychiatric, psychological, social work, speech & language, education, etc) have all - [Links](https://rickharper.simalam.ca/links/) - These are helpful resources for your family: Online: www.kidsmentalhealth.ca www.abacuslist.ca www.adoption.on.ca Suggested Reading: The Explosive Child by Ross W. 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