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Criticism is not a motivator.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

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LEADERSHIP WITHIN A FAMILY

 

LEADERSHIP WITHIN A FAMILY


A leader or leaders will emerge in every family.
If parents are unable or unwilling to perform the leadership role, a child will take over. There is no minimum age for this to happen. Some parents become “slaves” to a newborn, the moment  (s)he comes home from the hospital.
Frequently heard comments from parents who are not in charge of their home:

  •  “We can’t take him/her out to a restaurant, mall, etc.
  •  “We can’t go out because (s)he won’t stay with a sitter.”
  •  “We can’t find a sitter who will stay with him/her.”
  • -“We have no time to ourselves, (s)he demands all our attention.”
  •  “(S)he insists on staying up until we go to bed.”
  • -“(S)he has to sleep in our bed.”
  • “We have no social life.”
  • “It’s getting so I don’t even like this child anymore.”

CHILDREN IN LEADERSHIP ROLES WITHIN A FAMILY ARE NOT HAPPY.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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