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A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

Parenting style matters - a lot!

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

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Brain Fact # 10

Brain Plasticity

Dr. Pascual-Leone was asked “How does plasticity work in the brain? How fast do changes occur?

“There are different steps in neuroplasticity. One is a very rapid expansion of brain matter, which can be seen in about 1 week (for instance when someone is learning how to play a difficult finger sequence on a piano). This expansion results from the fact that the “wires” that connect the neurons responsible for that specific fingering allow more information to pass through. Such expansion can be seen only during the practice time. When practice is over a shrinkage is observed. If the learning behaviour is repeated over and over again, then new connections are established. In other words, the brain can accommodate more traffic and if this level of traffic is maintained it can expand the size of the “network”.

 

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