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"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

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Depression in Young People

The recent death of Robin Williams by an apparent suicide has once again brought the issue of depression to the forefront. 20 years ago depression was not diagnosed in young people. Today, experts recognize that it affects a significant percentage of  preteens and teens.

Depression is not:

  • a sign of weakness
  • a punishment for past wrongs
  • a flaw in a person’s character or personality
  • the young person’s fault

It is an illness that results in:

  • emotional changes
  • physical changes
  • cognitive changes
  • behavioural changes

There is no definitive diagnostic test for depression. Diagnosis is made by “talking” to people. “Talking” is not a great way to diagnose and illness, but it is all the psychiatrist has.

Depression in adults is relatively easy to diagnose:

  • there is a pronounced change in mood
  • the mood persists
  • adults usually acknowledge the problem
  • adults have some mature insights
  • they are usually motivated to “fix” it

Depression in young people is harder to diagnose:

  • is she depressed or just being a teenager?
  • he cycles frequently: depressed, happy, depressed, happy  . .
  • rarely asks to see a psychiatrist
  • usually reluctant to see a therapist
  • denies there is a problem

Depression in young people is probably under diagnosed and therefore untreated – causing much unnecessary misery

 

 

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