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The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Criticism is not a motivator.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

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LEADERSHIP WITHIN A FAMILY

 

LEADERSHIP WITHIN A FAMILY


A leader or leaders will emerge in every family.
If parents are unable or unwilling to perform the leadership role, a child will take over. There is no minimum age for this to happen. Some parents become “slaves” to a newborn, the moment  (s)he comes home from the hospital.
Frequently heard comments from parents who are not in charge of their home:

  •  “We can’t take him/her out to a restaurant, mall, etc.
  •  “We can’t go out because (s)he won’t stay with a sitter.”
  •  “We can’t find a sitter who will stay with him/her.”
  • -“We have no time to ourselves, (s)he demands all our attention.”
  •  “(S)he insists on staying up until we go to bed.”
  • -“(S)he has to sleep in our bed.”
  • “We have no social life.”
  • “It’s getting so I don’t even like this child anymore.”

CHILDREN IN LEADERSHIP ROLES WITHIN A FAMILY ARE NOT HAPPY.

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