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"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Hurt people hurt people.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

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LEADERSHIP WITHIN A FAMILY

 

LEADERSHIP WITHIN A FAMILY


A leader or leaders will emerge in every family.
If parents are unable or unwilling to perform the leadership role, a child will take over. There is no minimum age for this to happen. Some parents become “slaves” to a newborn, the moment  (s)he comes home from the hospital.
Frequently heard comments from parents who are not in charge of their home:

  •  “We can’t take him/her out to a restaurant, mall, etc.
  •  “We can’t go out because (s)he won’t stay with a sitter.”
  •  “We can’t find a sitter who will stay with him/her.”
  • -“We have no time to ourselves, (s)he demands all our attention.”
  •  “(S)he insists on staying up until we go to bed.”
  • -“(S)he has to sleep in our bed.”
  • “We have no social life.”
  • “It’s getting so I don’t even like this child anymore.”

CHILDREN IN LEADERSHIP ROLES WITHIN A FAMILY ARE NOT HAPPY.

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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A program for children with reading problems

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