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Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Parenting style matters - a lot!

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

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How Does It Feel to Have ADHD?

The following quotes are from children who have ADHD:

“It’s like being in a dark room where objects are scattered around to trip you. You don’t have a flashlight, but everyone else does. You trip around the room, bumping into things, until you finally learn the layout. Then someone moves you to a new room and the process starts all over again.”

“Imagine you’re watching twelve channels all at once and you’ve lost the remote.”

“I was at this party and got the bright idea of pouring lighter fluid on my gym shoes and then lit them on fire and danced around the dark room. It was cool. I know I could have hurt myself, but sometimes I just do things.”

“Everybody is always getting angry at me and yelling at me.”

“My teacher says I’m not trying hard enough and then my dad punishes me.”

“I guess I’m just not any good.”

Mom and Dad – if you felt that way about yourself wouldn’t you feel discouraged, useless and worthless?

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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