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The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

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Reading Rescue – theory – part 1

 

 

There are 2 basic approaches to teaching reading:

  1. phonics based
  2. whole language

The traditional theory of learning established in the 19th century draws on the notion that children need to break down a complex skill into its smallest components and then put the components together to perform the complex skill.

Example – the complex skill of skiing

The components of skiing:

  1. putting boots and skis on
  2. walking on level, snow covered ground with skis
  3. turning while walking on level snow
  4. sliding on a gentle slope
  5. stopping in a “snowplow” position
  6. left turn
  7. right turn

With proper instruction and some practice most people can learn to ski relatively well in a short period of time.

a) “Phonetic reading instruction” applies the same theory. Start with the  smallest component and build from there:

  1. teach the sounds of the individual letters
  2. blend the individual sounds together to make words
  3. put individual words together to make meaningful sentences

Children are taught to dissect an unfamiliar word into its parts and join the parts together to read the new word. The child learns a decoding formula that can be applied whenever he encounters an unfamiliar word.

b) “Whole language reading instruction” is less structured and less focused. It stresses the flow and meaning of the text and emphasizes reading for meaning and using language in ways that relate to the child’s own life and culture. “Sounding out” words, so central to phonics is not stressed in whole language. Instead children are encouraged to decode each word through its larger context.

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