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"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

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FASD and Early Adolescence (13-17 years)

The 2 main goals for parents during this stage are:

1.to prepare the young person to associate , identify and become a part of his community

2. to begin separation from parents

Guidelines for Parents

  1. expect “normal” teen behaviour – clothes, hair style, music, etc (choose your battles wisely)
  2. expect your teen to resist your “help” or “advice” (it’s normal)
  3. teens frequently become socially isolated – rejected by peer group
  4. your teen may gravitate to a negative peer group that encourages high risk behaviour
  5. your child will still require extensive learning assistance
  6. he / she may begin to realize the extent of their limitations

– unable to babysit

– unable to pass driver’s test

– can’t keep up with peers

7. he / she may begin to actually grieve at his own sense of loss and the permanence of the                                  disabilities

8. parents must move towards “letting go” – summer camp may be a good start

9. problems within the marriage sometimes surface at this point

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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Email: info@rickharper.ca

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Parents' Comments

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