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Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

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Asperger’s Syndrome (part 2)

 

 

 

There are no “hard” diagnostic tests for Asperger’s. The diagnosis is made through observation and reports from parents, teachers, etc. The majority of children with Asperger’s are diagnosed between the ages of 5 and 11 although a diagnosis may not be made until adulthood.

There is no “cure” for Asperger’s Syndrome, however there are interventions that can yield positive results:

  • parental education
  • teacher education
  • behavioural approaches
  • training of social skills (ABA,IBI)
  • medications to relieve some of the symptoms (hyperactivity, irritability, aggression, compulsions, anxiety, depression)

What Can a Parent Do?

  1. have your child evaluated by a qualified medical doctor
  2. develop an Individual Educational Plan (IEP) with your child’s school
  3. ensure ALL adults working with your child are educated about Asperger’s
  4. think about “where do you want your child to be in the next 5, 10, 15 years” and plan and teach him/her the required skills

Individual with Asperger’s Syndrome perceive the world differently and many behaviours that seem odd, unusual or inappropriate are due to neurological differences and are NOT the result of intentional rudeness or bad behaviour and are most certainly not the result of bad parenting.

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