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Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

Hurt people hurt people.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

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Asperger’s Syndrome (part 2)

 

 

 

There are no “hard” diagnostic tests for Asperger’s. The diagnosis is made through observation and reports from parents, teachers, etc. The majority of children with Asperger’s are diagnosed between the ages of 5 and 11 although a diagnosis may not be made until adulthood.

There is no “cure” for Asperger’s Syndrome, however there are interventions that can yield positive results:

  • parental education
  • teacher education
  • behavioural approaches
  • training of social skills (ABA,IBI)
  • medications to relieve some of the symptoms (hyperactivity, irritability, aggression, compulsions, anxiety, depression)

What Can a Parent Do?

  1. have your child evaluated by a qualified medical doctor
  2. develop an Individual Educational Plan (IEP) with your child’s school
  3. ensure ALL adults working with your child are educated about Asperger’s
  4. think about “where do you want your child to be in the next 5, 10, 15 years” and plan and teach him/her the required skills

Individual with Asperger’s Syndrome perceive the world differently and many behaviours that seem odd, unusual or inappropriate are due to neurological differences and are NOT the result of intentional rudeness or bad behaviour and are most certainly not the result of bad parenting.

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