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"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Hurt people hurt people.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

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The Golden rules of Temper Tantrums

  1. Tantrums are a normal part of a child’s development.
  2. Always remember the boy Scouts motto: Be Prepared.
  3. Never look around at the faces of those people watching you when your child is having a tantrum in public.
  4. The more involved you are with your child’s tantrum, the longer it will last.
  5. Remember to catch him being good as often as you can.
  6. Understand that all children want their parents’ love and attention.
  7. Move on and forget about the tantrum once it is over.

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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