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If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

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Developmental Tasks During Adolescence

DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS DURING ADOLESCENTS

1) adjust to physical changes
2) separate from their parents
3) develop a social network
4) begin to focus on educational and vocational objectives
5) develop a sexual identity
 
 
All of the above is a lot to expect in the few short years of adolescence  = STRESS
 
 
STRESS HAS A SIGNIFICANT EFFECT ON PARTS OF THE BRAIN
INVOLVED IN THE REGULATION AND CONTROL OF EMOTIONS
 
 
 
STRESSFUL EVENTS ARE AMONG THE STRONGEST PRECIPITANTS OF INITIAL EPISODES OF MAJOR DEPRESSION
 
 
 
DEPRESSION IS A MALFUNCTION OF STRESS MANAGEMENT !
 
 

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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