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The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Parenting style matters - a lot!

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

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Violent Video Games

 

 

The following is a scene from Grand Theft Auto : Vice City. It is a first person game where the player controls all the characters and is awarded points for behaving in certain ways.

You steal a geek’s Corvette and speed along Miami’s roadways. You turn up the volume on the car’s radio. You see a pretty woman standing beside the road and slam on the brakes. She walks over to your car, smiles and asks “You want to have a good time?”. She’s a prostitute. You let her in the car, have simulated sex with her, then shoot her in the head with the pistol you stole earlier from a policemen you murdered. As she dies, blood pouring from her head, you retrieve the money you gave her.

In this game you get extra points for shooting the prostitute and are awarded double points for shooting police officers.

The experts do not all agree about the effect  these types of games have on  our young people but there is a growing body of evidence that  links violent video games with serious anti social behaviour. Professor Craig Anderson (Iowa State University) says the evidence is every bit as strong as the evidence linking second-hand smoke to lung cancer. (“Violent Video Games: Myths,facts and unanswered questions”, Psychological Science Agenda, volume 16, October 2003)

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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