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The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

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Reading Rescue – theory Part 2

My blog entry on November 23 presented a paragraph to read that broke all the rules for reading. You did not use your phonics skills or your whole language skills to read the passage as none of them conformed to the rules of reading. and yet you were able to read it by using a set of skills that were not taught to you.

Your brain has mastered the skill of reading to such an extent that you are able to pick up suble clues from the combination of letters and spaces and context and length of words etc. to make sense of something that actually makes no sense.

Your reading speed probably slowed down as you read this passage as your brain had to process something that it normally does not have to process. During “normal” reading, when you encounter a “new” word, your brain automatically slows down and searches for a skill that will decode the word for you. If it is a complex combination of letters you will probably attempt to use your phonics skills to decode it:

eg. Chargoggagooggmanchauggagoggchaubunagungamogg   – a lake in Massachusetts

 

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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