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If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

The best inheritance  parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

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Reading Rescue – theory Part 2

My blog entry on November 23 presented a paragraph to read that broke all the rules for reading. You did not use your phonics skills or your whole language skills to read the passage as none of them conformed to the rules of reading. and yet you were able to read it by using a set of skills that were not taught to you.

Your brain has mastered the skill of reading to such an extent that you are able to pick up suble clues from the combination of letters and spaces and context and length of words etc. to make sense of something that actually makes no sense.

Your reading speed probably slowed down as you read this passage as your brain had to process something that it normally does not have to process. During “normal” reading, when you encounter a “new” word, your brain automatically slows down and searches for a skill that will decode the word for you. If it is a complex combination of letters you will probably attempt to use your phonics skills to decode it:

eg. Chargoggagooggmanchauggagoggchaubunagungamogg   – a lake in Massachusetts

 

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