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Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

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Toilet Training (part 3)

 

 

You would be wise to read my 2 previous postings about toilet training as a review before attempting this actual routine.

Remember you can’t go far wrong:

  1. if you don’t start too early
  2. if you don’t force the child
  3. if you don’t panic

Step # 1

Does he know he’s wet? Modern disposable diapers are too comfortable. I recommend that you use training pants as wet pants are cold, itchy and uncomfortable. You want your child to be aware of that wet, icky feeling.

Step # 2

Once he has developed an awareness of being uncomfortable when wet, have him sit regularly on the potty:

  • before and after meals
  • before and after playtime

Give him some books to look at and  sit on the floor beside him and talk about the books            ( make it a pleasant time for you and the child)

Some children are enthused and motivated to use the potty and some are not. It is pointless to fight with the child if he is fighting with you.

Step # 3

If the child relieves himself in the potty, reinforce him (some suggestions for reinforcement could include: praise,  phoning daddy at work,   phoning grandma,  a jelly bean,  a small trinket, etc.

Don’t force the situation. If he does not “go” in the potty, do not  make him stay too long but put him on again in a short while.  In the event of an accident, do not scold or punish the child, just continue the routine in a loving and supportive way

If it is obviously not going to work for him, put the potty away for a few weeks and try again later.

If he continue to have trouble, it would be wise to consult with his pediatrician to ensure there is no medical problem.

He WILL eventually master this skill !

Trying to rush toilet training is like trying to hurry hair growth. It just doesn’t work.

What parents need most are ideas because with ideas we get options.

Rick Harper has been providing ideas for over 40 years.

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