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It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

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Columbine High School

COLUMBINE HIGH SCHOOL 1999
– the two perpetrators (both committed suicide)
                                    – one was being treated for psychiatric disorder
                                    – both in trouble with the law
                                    – both were socially isolated “losers”
                                    – both had been bullied
                                    – both enduring pain
This was a big story in 1999 but it is not the biggest story – most teens suffer alone, invisibly and their eventual suicides never make to TV news
 
THE ISSUE SHOULD BE – CAN WE PREVENT OTHER “TICKING TIME BOMBS”
 
A typical high school of 1000 students
                  – 180 have thoughts of suicide
                  – 50 make an attempt

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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