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Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Hurt people hurt people.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

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Phobias

Phobias are a type of anxiety disorder usually defined as a persistent fear of an object or situation typically disproportional to the actual danger posed. There are literally hundreds and hundreds of phobias  (see – www.phobialist.com).

Some of the more common ones are:

  • dogs                                  Cynophobia
  • Friday 13                         Paraskavedekatriaphobia
  • thunderstorms               Brontophobia
  • loud noises                     Ligyrophobia
  • nighttime                        Nyctophobia
  • snakes                             Ophidiophobia
  • spiders                            Arachnephobia
  • writing tests                 Testophobia
  • dentists                           Dentophobia
  • hospitals                        Nosocomephobia

Some that seem particularly odd: (at least to me !)

  • becoming bald           Phalacrophobia
  • bathing                         Ablutophobia
  • beds                              Clinophobia
  • clocks                           Chronophobia
  • colour purple              Porphyrophobia
  • mother-in-law           Pentheraphobia
  • peanut butter              Arachibutyrophobia
  • politicians                   Politicophobia
  • sitting down               Kathisophobia
  • teenagers                     Ephabiphobia

Phobias can interfere greatly in a persons enjoyment of life. Thankfully there are a number of treatments available including:

  • cognitive behaviour therapy
  • counter conditioning
  • hypnosis
  • systematic desensitization
  • antianxiety medications

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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