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The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

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Does This Sound Familiar?

Does any of this sound familiar?
                  – “No, you cannot have another glass of water”
                  – “Look at that closet; what do you mean you have nothing to wear?”
                  – “This room should be condemned by the Board of Health.”
                  – “Do you think money grows on trees?”
                  – “Get out of bed this instant?”
                  – “Get into bed this instant?”
                  – “What is that on the floor?”
                  – “No child of mine is going to school dressed like that!”
                  – “It’s 10 P.M. and now you tell me your history project is due tomorrow!”
                  – “If you’re not hungry enough to eat broccoli, you are certainly not hungry enough to get dessert”
                  – “How many times do I have to tell you to lift the toilet seat?”
 
These things happen to us all. There isn’t any parent who hasn’t gone “over the top” with their kids. No one!
 
Now, not all parents lose it at the very same spot;
– some breeze through toddlerhood only to turn the corner and be “T-boned” by   their preteen. On the other hand it could just as easily go the other way – preteens seem like a piece of cake while it is the little tykes that undo you.
 
Consider giving Rick Harper a call.   (519) 485-4678
 

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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“Implementing Rick’s techniques and adhering to them is exhausting, but it is a healthy exhaustion rather than the detrimental exhaustion I used to experience.”

(B.F. – Woodstock)