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You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Hurt people hurt people.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Criticism is not a motivator.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

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Face of Facebook (bullying)

I had an opportunity last night to attend a presentation by Katie Cole (Thames Valley District School Board) which focused on the ugly side of social media. My reason for going was that I am not at all into these modern forms of communicating (Facebook, Twitter, etc) but I am frequently asked to deal with the fallout of bullying that has taken place through these sites. Katie gave a very thorough and informative description of both the good and bad aspects of social media and highlighted many tips about how to educate and protect our children. She also outlined the efforts that school boards are initiating in this area, but it has become very clear that there are increasing numbers of  serious problems associated with these modern forms of communicating. The harsh reality is that social media is not going to go away and the problems are unquestionably going to increase. I applaud the efforts of people like Katie Cole and Bruce Langford who put so much effort into educating children all over Ontario on the safe use of social media.

One area of this problem that appears to be somewhat overlooked is the coaching of  children that are being bullied.  Individual coaching of children is one of the services I provide and it has made a world of difference for many children who are struggling by being bullied. I meet with the child and parents a number of occasions and teach them skills to diffuse bullying. I provide knowledge, support, encouragement and accountability which has been shown to empower children to solve their problems themselves.

Rick Harper of Behavioural Management Systems has been providing ideas to parents and children for over 40 years.

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“Our daughter was the joy of our life until she turned 13, then all hell broke loose. Rick helped us understand what was happening to her and we made some adjustments that helped us get through it. She’s now in University and doing well.”

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