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Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

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How Does It Feel to Have ADHD?

The following quotes are from children who have ADHD:

“It’s like being in a dark room where objects are scattered around to trip you. You don’t have a flashlight, but everyone else does. You trip around the room, bumping into things, until you finally learn the layout. Then someone moves you to a new room and the process starts all over again.”

“Imagine you’re watching twelve channels all at once and you’ve lost the remote.”

“I was at this party and got the bright idea of pouring lighter fluid on my gym shoes and then lit them on fire and danced around the dark room. It was cool. I know I could have hurt myself, but sometimes I just do things.”

“Everybody is always getting angry at me and yelling at me.”

“My teacher says I’m not trying hard enough and then my dad punishes me.”

“I guess I’m just not any good.”

Mom and Dad – if you felt that way about yourself wouldn’t you feel discouraged, useless and worthless?

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Parents' Comments

“We were so naive. We thought our son’s poor behaviour was just a phase he was passing through. Thankfully you led us ‘out of the wilderness'”

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