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Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Criticism is not a motivator.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

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Limit Testers

 
ENTHUSIATIC
 LIMIT TESTERS
 
Many children :
                  1. do not stop when told
                  2. don’t respect rules
                  3. don’t respect authority
                  4. lack basic social skills
                  5. have emotional problems
                  6. have learning disabilities
                  7. do NOT have  an identified diagnosis
 
MOST ARE SIMPLY EXERCISING THEIR WILLPOWER
Parents have tried:
                  – lectures
                  – threatening
                  – reasoning
                  – explaining
                  – bribing
                  – cajoling                                                      WITHOUT
                  – writing names on board       
                  – taking away recess                            SUCCESS
                  – writing out lines
                  – time out
                  – sending to office
                  – giving detentions
                  – daily reports home
                  – involving parents
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PARENTS ARE DOING THE BEST THEY CAN
WITH THE TOOLS THEY HAVE
BUT
THEY AREN’T WORKING
AND THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO
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Behaviour management requires as much or more time and energy as any other parenting task !
 
 
 
 
 
Behaviour management is simply too important to be neglected or handled ineffectively !
 
 
 
 
The cost of ineffective behaviour management is too great !

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

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“Our daughter was the joy of our life until she turned 13, then all hell broke loose. Rick helped us understand what was happening to her and we made some adjustments that helped us get through it. She’s now in University and doing well.”

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