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Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

Hurt people hurt people.

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

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Temper Tantrums (18 months to 3 years)

A tantrum from a child this age becomes more dramatic. Expect screaming, crying, protest, slamming toys and doors, throwing objects, self injurious behaviours and lying on the ground with flailing arms and legs. The most effective and appropriate responses by the parent of a child this age are “redirection”, “extinction”, and “wait out”. For safety reason, stay within eyesight of the child. The “teachable moment” is not during the tantrum but sometime after you and your child have cooled down. “Withdrawal of a privilege”  or  “tracking” may be appropriate and effective for a child at the upper end of this age group.

Next posting – dealing with tantrums from children 3 years to 6 years old

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