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"Rules without relationship leads to rebellion" (Josh McDowell)

Parenting style matters - a lot!

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

"Moody" and "unpredictable" are adjectives parents will often use when referring to their teenagers.

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The Teenage Brain

 

Adolescence is ONE of the times in an individuals life when the greatest brain development is occurring.

  • the brain changes in size and shape
  • grey matter thickens
  • increase in synaptic connections between brain cells
  • specialization within the brain occurs
  • “pruning” of neural pathways occurs
  • sex hormones impact the brain

Neurotransmitters  are chemicals in the brain that facilitate the transmission of messages along nerve cells (billions of messages per second).

The primary neurotransmitters involved with depression are:

  1. serotonin
  2. dopamine
  3. norepinephrine

THE DISREGULATION OF NEUROTRANSMITTERS IS A PRIMARY CONTRIBUTOR TO DEPRESSION.

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Developmental tasks during adolescence

  1. adjust to physical changes
  2. separate from their parents
  3. develop a social network
  4. begin to focus on educational and vocational objectives
  5. develop a sexual identity

All of the above is a lot to expect in a few short years of adolescence = STRESS

“Stress” has a significant effect on parts of the brain involved in the regulation and control of emotions.

Stressful events are among the strongest precipitants of initial episodes of major depression.

DEPRESSION IS A MALFUNCTION OF STRESS MANAGEMENT

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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Email: info@rickharper.ca

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