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Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Hurt people hurt people.

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

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Dry Bed Training

      Dry Bed Training (Part 1) Many of the parents who contact me regarding behaviour issues with their children also deal with bed wetting, and dry bed training is sometimes a secondary goal that we address. First the Good News ! 1. Bedwetting is not an illness. 2. Bedwetting is not the child’s fault. 3. Bedwetting is not the parent’s fault. 4. Bedwetting can contribute to emotional problems ~ but it’s not inevitable. […]

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Dry Bed Training

Dry Bed Training (Part 1) Many of the parents who contact me regarding behaviour issues with their children also deal with bed wetting, and dry bed training is sometimes a secondary goal that we address. First the Good News ! 1. Bedwetting is not an illness. 2. Bedwetting is not the child’s fault. 3. Bedwetting is not the parent’s fault. 4. Bedwetting can contribute to emotional problems ~ but it’s not inevitable. 5. There are […]

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Big Brothers, Big Sisters, Big Day

    I had an opportunity recently to meet with a number of people connected through Big Brothers/Big Sisters. The Wellington Street Sportsmen’s Club each year invite the “Brothers and Sisters” to participate in a day of fishing at the club pond near Dorchester. About 50 Brothers and Sisters came out to enjoy a beautiful Saturday, lots of fish, a BBQ of hot dogs and hamburgers, topped off with a bag of chips and an […]

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Dealing With Children’s Behaviour Problems

          I have been working with children with behaviour issues for over 40 years. Some of these children displayed emotional problems, learning disabilities, impulse control issues, hyperactivity and attention deficits. They all have had trouble functioning in their homes, schools and/or community. Behavioural Management Systems believes that these problems can best be resolved in the home by the parents. Learning to manage a child’s behaviour at home will improve all other […]

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Behaviour Management Course for EA’s, ECE’s, CYW’s, DSW’s, and PSW’s

School Boards and agencies are requiring EA’s, ECE’s, CYW’s, DSW’s and PSW’s to receive an upgrading or refresher course in their behaviour management skills. Behavioural Management Systems is responding to this need by offering a custom designed course that is convenient, flexible and affordable. Simply e-mail (info@rickharper.ca) or phone (519) 485-4678 for details. A course can be arranged at any time, for any number of participants (even individuals). You will receive instruction and a comprehensive […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Contact

2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
Fax: (519) 485-0281

Email: info@rickharper.ca

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“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

(G.E. – Strathroy)