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Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent - you are allowed to make a U-turn.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

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10 Things To Do With a Pencil (if you’re ADHD)

    Fly it through the air. Roll it across your desk and let it fall to the floor. Stick it in the screw of the chair. Eat it. Poke your neighbour. Stick it up your nose. Pick the threads of your socks. Sharpen it . . . sharpen it again . . . sharpen it again . . . Pretend it is a drum stick. Lose it.

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Toilet Training (part 3)

    You would be wise to read my 2 previous postings about toilet training as a review before attempting this actual routine. Remember you can’t go far wrong: if you don’t start too early if you don’t force the child if you don’t panic Step # 1 Does he know he’s wet? Modern disposable diapers are too comfortable. I recommend that you use training pants as wet pants are cold, itchy and uncomfortable. You […]

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Toilet Training (part 2)

    As I stated in my previous blog many toilet training difficulties are really non problems. They stem from either: unrealistic expectations misleading advice A child’s neurological and physiological “systems” must be sufficiently developed in order to gain control of his bladder and bowels and there is a wide variation of ages when these 2 systems converge to make toilet training successful. At around 18 months of age the child’s reflex control begins to […]

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Toilet Training (part 1)

    “I am a grown man with a university degree. I consider myself to be mature, well adjusted and able to exist adequately in our modern society . As such, I never would have believed the exhilaration and pride  I experienced when my son did his first “slam dunk” in the potty” (a parent of a toddler) Often times parents get in too much of a hurry to toilet train their child resulting in […]

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Homework Hassles (part 2)

    There are 2 kinds of homework resistors and each requires a different response: the work is too hard for the child the child views the work as irrelevant, not important or boring 1) If the work is too hard, the child has been placed in an impossible position and his homework resistance will continue and probably escalate. The teacher needs to ensure the work is not beyond the child’s ability and the parent […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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“Implementing Rick’s techniques and adhering to them is exhausting, but it is a healthy exhaustion rather than the detrimental exhaustion I used to experience.”

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