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A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

The best inheritance  parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day.

Parenting style matters - a lot!

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

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Challenges Parents of Some Teens Face

    My previous  2 blog entries highlighted positive research finding by Canadian sociologist Reginald Bibby. Unfortunately not all teens fit his description. Below is a list of concerns that parents share with me: disrespectful attitude self absorbed lazy & careless about responsibilities negative attitude toward life and school emotionally withdrawn & distant picks friends who you disapprove angry outbursts for little reason lacks motivation for school neglects chores moody mean to siblings detaches from […]

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Research on Teens

    Reginald Bibby concludes from his research that I reported in my previous blog that: 1. The values deemed “most important” by adult Canadians are mirrored by a solid majority of young people. 2. Canadian teens tend to hold essentially the same views as canadian adkults about core values. 3. Teen outlook is remarkably similar to adults. 4. The idea that there is a wide generation gap between the majority of teens and their […]

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The Really “Ugly” Side of Stimulant Meds for ADHD

What are the really bad things that can happen? Stimulant meds are in the same class as morphine and barbiturates the potential for abuse is real abusers report cocaine-like effects Large doses give feelings of : euphoria  more energy  sense of power As effects wear off: heightened fatigue  irritability,  depression  craving for more Persistent use can lead to: psychotic episodes paranoid behaviour hallucinations bizarre behaviour  

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Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 10)

    Determine the Type of Tantrum Tantrums come in 2 varieties: “development” and “manipulative. The terrible two’s is all about the “developmental” type. These are typically very intense as the child literally has lost control of himself. With increasing age, this type usually gives way to the “manipulative” tantrum that typically has less intensity and more of a conscious, planned quality. It is not always easy to distinguish between the two types. The reaction […]

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Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part # 9)

    Early Intervention Intervene early, either before the tantrum starts or as soon as possible after it starts. Most children do not go from behaving appropriately to having a tantrum in a matter of seconds. More often, they first engage in inappropriate behaviours such as talking back, crying, whining or yelling. In most cases, you probably know when a tantrum is about to occur. Whenever you have the gut feeling that IT is about […]

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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