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It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Wouldn't it be nice if children would simply listen and learn.

"The thing that impresses me most about North America is the way parents obey their children"    (King Edward VII , 1841-1910)

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Criticism is not a motivator.

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

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Sibling Rivalry

Sibling rivalry has existed as long as we’ve had siblings! In Biblical times we had Cain and Abel, Joseph and his brother problems. In children’s stories we have Cinderella. It seems that rivalry naturally follows the word sibling despite the fact that there are many solid sibling relationships within families. Conflict between siblings isn’t unique to humans either. It happens in just about every animal species that raises several young at the same time although […]

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Phobias

Phobias are a type of anxiety disorder usually defined as a persistent fear of an object or situation typically disproportional to the actual danger posed. There are literally hundreds and hundreds of phobias  (see – www.phobialist.com). Some of the more common ones are: dogs                                  Cynophobia Friday 13                         […]

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Limit Testers

  ENTHUSIATIC  LIMIT TESTERS   Many children :                   1. do not stop when told                   2. don’t respect rules                   3. don’t respect authority                   4. lack basic social skills                   5. have emotional problems                   6. have learning disabilities                   7. do NOT have  an identified diagnosis   MOST ARE SIMPLY EXERCISING THEIR WILLPOWER Parents have tried:                   – lectures                   – threatening                   – reasoning                   – explaining                   – bribing                   – […]

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Long Term Effects of FASD

Brain damage in utero lasts a lifetime! The resulting disabilities can severely impair the quality of life for the child, for the family and for society. LIFE IMPLICATIONS easily victimized unfocused, distractible money management problems doesn’t learn from mistakes doesn’t understand consequences fails to perceive social cues quick to anger difficult relationships lack initative drops out of school susceptible to drug & alcohol abuse become “ineffective” parents unemployment homeless trouble with the law mental health […]

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ADD/ADHD – The Classic Triad

1. Inattention 2. Impulsive 3. Hyperactivity ADD/ADHD children often manifest so much more than the classic triad. They frequently exhibit: poor self control over responsiveness easily frustrated poor self talk trouble shifting gears poor recall of past poor future planning These behaviours stem from an inability to INHIBIT their desires. They are so caught up in the “now” that the “future” is not considered. There is no “future” or “past” – only the “NOW”

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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2720 Rath Street, Putnam, Ontario
NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
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Email: info@rickharper.ca

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“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

(G.E. – Strathroy)