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We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

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THE TERROR OF NIGHT TERRORS

The Terror of Night Terrors     Few things are more terrifying for a parent than the first time their child has a night terror. Night terrors are different than bad dreams or nightmares. Bad dreams and nightmares happen to virtually everybody and occur during the REM sleep phase (rapid eye movement). Researchers have discovered that even fetuses have dreams – including “bad” ones. Bad dreams may cause facial grimaces, moving, thrashing about and may […]

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Lying – Part 2

  LYING & TRUST   a) Children and teens lie a lot                   details about        – where they’re going                                                       – what they’re doing                                                       – who they’re with                                                       – doing things forbidden them                                                       – sometimes they continue to lie even when caught and the facts are undeniable                                                       – they may become enraged when not believed                                                       “YOU DON’T TRUST ME !”   If trustworthiness of our children and teens […]

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Lying

    LYING Little children keep no secrets – but that changes overtime.   At some point children realize that parents are not all knowing. It becomes possible to influence what their parents know about their actions and thoughts. They learn that information is power and concealing information makes them feel powerful. Lying and truth telling have powerful consequences and the drive to gain control of those consequences by hiding truth is something that manifests […]

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Reading Problems

  Reading Problems Dyslexia ( a reading/spelling disorder) affects nearly 8% of elementary school children and it can make school torturous. The best way to improve reading skills is by reading but finding books that interest children with dyslexia is no easy feat. The following books are great for encouraging less than keen readers because they are funny, surprising and exciting. “Wolfman” by Michael Rosen – a wonderful story for children as young as 5. […]

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Setting Limits with Teenagers

  Setting Limits with Teenagers ! A teenager’s job description includes being: impulsive rebellious style-obsessed irritable incommunicative peer centered risk taker sleep deprived While judgment skills are developing, he needs parents to keep him safe by setting clear limits backed up with fair, reasonable, firm and consistent consequences. Balanced limits builds trust between parents and teens – you need to find a balance between your need for control and your teen’s needs for independence. Every […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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