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If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

The best inheritance  parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day.

Criticism is not a motivator.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

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Violent Video Games

 

 

The following is a scene from Grand Theft Auto : Vice City. It is a first person game where the player controls all the characters and is awarded points for behaving in certain ways.

You steal a geek’s Corvette and speed along Miami’s roadways. You turn up the volume on the car’s radio. You see a pretty woman standing beside the road and slam on the brakes. She walks over to your car, smiles and asks “You want to have a good time?”. She’s a prostitute. You let her in the car, have simulated sex with her, then shoot her in the head with the pistol you stole earlier from a policemen you murdered. As she dies, blood pouring from her head, you retrieve the money you gave her.

In this game you get extra points for shooting the prostitute and are awarded double points for shooting police officers.

The experts do not all agree about the effect  these types of games have on  our young people but there is a growing body of evidence that  links violent video games with serious anti social behaviour. Professor Craig Anderson (Iowa State University) says the evidence is every bit as strong as the evidence linking second-hand smoke to lung cancer. (“Violent Video Games: Myths,facts and unanswered questions”, Psychological Science Agenda, volume 16, October 2003)

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