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It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

Good parenting requires sacrifice. Childhood lasts for only a few brief years , but it should be given priority while it is passing before your eyes

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Hurt people hurt people.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

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Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you to the skills, techniques and strategies to assess and manage a wide range of behaviour problems (eg. aggression, destruction. noncompliance, swearing, school problems, tantrums, sibling quarreling, etc.). You will learn how to determine the underlying causes of the inappropriate behaviours, develop logical interventions and establish a monitoring system to evaluate progress. Suitable for parents, teachers, daycare, social workers. (6 hours)

Lick Your Kids

 
“Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours)
First the bad news – if you have kids you can really mess them up.
Now the good news – you also have the opportunity to help them become great.
There are 3 powerful forces influencing your child’s development
1.    nature        = his genetic code
2.    nurture       = what you (mom & dad) do
3.    free will     = your child’s independent decisions
You can’t change his genetic code and once your child becomes a certain age you can’t force your will on him, but you always have complete control of your responses to him.
This workshop is filled with sanity saving strategies that provide ideas on how to
effectively respond to:
            – temper tantrums                              – sibling quibbling
            – noncompliance                                – lying
            – setting boundaries                          – stealing
            – breaking curfew                               – allowances
            – using rewards                                  – time out
            – homework hassles                          – messy rooms
            – testing & manipulation                    -much more

A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain



 

A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain with fewer kilometres on it. It is a brain that has not fully developed. It is a work in progress and has stymied parents for centuries. Modern neuroscience is now explaining biological reasons why:

1. teens can seem so mature one minute and so maddening the next

2. some struggle and some bloom

3. they engage in risky behaviour (drinking, drugs, sex, etc.)

4. they can’t get out of bed before noon on Saturday

5. he / she won’t talk to you anymore

6. they slam doors

Science is tiptoeing on the edge of understanding the teenage brain and the science is changing fast. Understanding the teen brain can lead to smoother relationships between parents and their kids.

 

Reading Rescue

Can you read these?

1. Msot of the wrdos in tihs scetenne are slelped icnrceorlty and yet you are slitl albe to raed it wtuhot mcuh ducfltiify.

2. thewordsinthissentenceareallspelledcorrectlybutitisprobablymoredifficulttoreadthansentencenumberone.

The sentences you just read illustrate what a complex skill reading actually is. You did not use your phonics skills or your whole language skills to read the sentences because most of the words do not conform to the “rules”. And yet you were able to read it by using a set of skills that were not directly taught to you.

Your brain has mastered the skill of reading to such an extent that you are able to pick up subtle clues from the combination of letters and spaces and context and length of word, etc. to make sense of something that actually makes no sense.

Most children are able to learn the basic individual skills of reading in the conventional manner taught in our schools and begin to assimilate the more obscure skills on their own and become proficient readers as you have done. There are however, a significant % of children who for a variety of reasons, have been unable to grasp these skills and consequently have great difficulty in learning to read.

“Reading Rescue” has been developed to assist those children whose “special” learning needs are not being met by regular classroom experiences.

Taming a Toddler

 

 

Most parents of newborns manage pretty well in the first year but as soon as the negative, stubborn, self-centered, unreasonable toddler appears, many parents wonder what has hit them. This workshop explores what constitutes normal toddler development and behaviour, common parental concerns and how to deal with those concerns.




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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you [...]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First [...]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain [...]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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“Our daughter was the joy of our life until she turned 13, then all hell broke loose. Rick helped us understand what was happening to her and we made some adjustments that helped us get through it. She’s now in University and doing well.”

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