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Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

If you are headed in the wrong direction as a parent – you are allowed to make a U-turn.

Parenting style matters – a lot!

“Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways.” (Stephen Covey)

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

It is what we say and do when we’re angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

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Tantrums (9 months to 18 months)

Temper tantrums should be expected to begin at this age. There will be a sudden explosion of tears and crying. He may throw himself to the ground, stiffen his body and clench his fist. You should attempt to determine the child’s “goal” for the tantrum. If his “goal” is reasonable (eg. hunger, boredom, discomfort, etc.) you should instruct the child in more appropriate methods by which he can achieve his goal and reinforce his future [...]

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Tantrums at Various Ages

0 to 8 months Infants less than 8 months old do not have “temper tantrums” Crying or fussing is their way of communicating a need to you, whether it be hunger, diaper change, nap, change of position, or they simply don’t feel well. You should respond to your baby and attempt to identify the problem and “fix” it. Next post will look at tantrums for children 9 months old to 18 months.

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Dealing with Temper Tantrums

No two children are the same. There are no universal disciplinary techniques that apply to all children. There are however, some general principles to keep in mind: tantrums are normal in young children tantrums are vehicles to teach valuable life long lessons children manifest tantrums most often: a) when their wishes are not met b) when they are tired or hungry 4. your appropriate response is critical and will determine if your child learns those [...]

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The Good News About Temper Tantrums

children usually outgrow them they are a normal part of development they are vehicles which teach children: – how to cope with frustration – how to problem solve – communication skills 4. there are a number of strategies parents can use to teach these skills and numerous ideas about               preventing them WARNING – the parent’s understanding about tantrums and their appropriate response to one is critical for the [...]

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Temper Tantrum (statistics)

1 year old       =     14% have tantrums daily 2-3 years old =     20% have tantrums daily 4 years old     =     11% have tantrums daily 5-6 years old =     5% have tantrums daily Adults have tantrums, but we usually say they’re “making a scene” Tantrums can occur at any time or place, but there are certain places where they are more likely or [...]

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Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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