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A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

Children do not develop on their own - they only develop within relationships.

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

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More FAQ about ADD/ADHD

3. What are the theories about causes of ADD,ADHD? There have been many theories about the cause of ADD/ADHD but there is no consensus among the experts. a) brain injury – caused by trauma or disease – this was one of the first theories however current thinking suggests that this causes relatively few cases b) delayed brain maturation – the brain is simply slow in developing some of its functions and it will eventually catch […]

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The Problem with ADD/ADHD Assessments

The medical community uses the term “diagnosis drives treatment”.  This means that a correct diagnosis must be made before a treatment is prescribed. This is quite straight forward with many medical problems (examples – throat infections, cancer, heart attacks, broken bones, abscess tooth, etc) as there are diagnostic tests that can definitively identify the problem (examples – blood tests, bacterial cultures, MRI, biopsies, X rays, etc). The problem diagnosing  ADD/ADHD (and many other problems in […]

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Sleep Problems (part 1)

“Children are a comfort in our old age, it is true; and often children help us reach it faster too”. “My children are the perfect age . . . too old to cry at night and too young to ask for the car.” Sleep problems are not the same in children as they are in adults. For example, infants and toddlers who are not sleeping well do not complain – their parents do. Young children […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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