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It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Parenting style matters - a lot!

There has been an explosion in the prescribing of medication for very young children, particularly preschool and kindergarten boys (Juli Zito , Univ. of Maryland)

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Criticism is not a motivator.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

The quickest way to change your child’s behaviour is to first change your own.

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Ritalin – the Good, the Bad and the Ugly

Second – the bad

Like all medications, Ritalin has negative side effects. Not all individuals will be affected in the same way but the following list are concerns that have been observed:

  • decreased appetite (hunger returns when meds wear off)
  • weight loss
  • failure to grow
  • insomnia
  • dizziness and drowsiness
  • increase in motor and/or vocal tics
  • increase in heart rate
  • increase in blood pressure
  • abdominal stress (nausea)
  • headaches
  • allergic reactions (rash, hives)
  • nervousness
  • excitement
  • can affect liver function
  • may activate latent epilepsy or glaucoma
  • tolerance develops requiring larger dose
  • makes some children feel “funny”
  • negatively interacts with some drugs
  • “rebound” – hyperactivity returns stronger when drug wears off

The following list includes possible psychosocial side effects:

  • lower self esteem
  • attributes “external” cause for success or failure
  • disowning responsibility for their own provocative behaviour
  • stigmatization by peers
  • family issues remain unresolved
  • need for parenting and teaching changes are buried

The following quote from the American Psychiatric Press – Textbook of Psychiatry –

page 1076 is noteworthy – “Stimulants have not been demonstrated to have long term therapeutic effects”. . . . “It is clear that medication alone is not sufficient treatment”.

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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