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Don't wait for him to turn 10 before you reveal that you are not in fact the hired help whose job it is to clean up after him.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Hurt people hurt people.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Children today are under enormous pressures rarely experienced by their parents or grandparents. Many of today's children are being enticed to grow up too quickly and are encountering challenges for which they are totally unprepared.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

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Phobias

Phobias are a type of anxiety disorder usually defined as a persistent fear of an object or situation typically disproportional to the actual danger posed. There are literally hundreds and hundreds of phobias  (see – www.phobialist.com).

Some of the more common ones are:

  • dogs                                  Cynophobia
  • Friday 13                         Paraskavedekatriaphobia
  • thunderstorms               Brontophobia
  • loud noises                     Ligyrophobia
  • nighttime                        Nyctophobia
  • snakes                             Ophidiophobia
  • spiders                            Arachnephobia
  • writing tests                 Testophobia
  • dentists                           Dentophobia
  • hospitals                        Nosocomephobia

Some that seem particularly odd: (at least to me !)

  • becoming bald           Phalacrophobia
  • bathing                         Ablutophobia
  • beds                              Clinophobia
  • clocks                           Chronophobia
  • colour purple              Porphyrophobia
  • mother-in-law           Pentheraphobia
  • peanut butter              Arachibutyrophobia
  • politicians                   Politicophobia
  • sitting down               Kathisophobia
  • teenagers                     Ephabiphobia

Phobias can interfere greatly in a persons enjoyment of life. Thankfully there are a number of treatments available including:

  • cognitive behaviour therapy
  • counter conditioning
  • hypnosis
  • systematic desensitization
  • antianxiety medications

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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“Our daughter was the joy of our life until she turned 13, then all hell broke loose. Rick helped us understand what was happening to her and we made some adjustments that helped us get through it. She’s now in University and doing well.”

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