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Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

If there is no relationship - nothing else matters !

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

"Unexpressed feeling never die. They are buried alive and come back later in ugly ways." (Stephen Covey)

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Limit Testers

 
ENTHUSIATIC
 LIMIT TESTERS
 
Many children :
                  1. do not stop when told
                  2. don’t respect rules
                  3. don’t respect authority
                  4. lack basic social skills
                  5. have emotional problems
                  6. have learning disabilities
                  7. do NOT have  an identified diagnosis
 
MOST ARE SIMPLY EXERCISING THEIR WILLPOWER
Parents have tried:
                  – lectures
                  – threatening
                  – reasoning
                  – explaining
                  – bribing
                  – cajoling                                                      WITHOUT
                  – writing names on board       
                  – taking away recess                            SUCCESS
                  – writing out lines
                  – time out
                  – sending to office
                  – giving detentions
                  – daily reports home
                  – involving parents
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PARENTS ARE DOING THE BEST THEY CAN
WITH THE TOOLS THEY HAVE
BUT
THEY AREN’T WORKING
AND THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO
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Behaviour management requires as much or more time and energy as any other parenting task !
 
 
 
 
 
Behaviour management is simply too important to be neglected or handled ineffectively !
 
 
 
 
The cost of ineffective behaviour management is too great !

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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NOL 2BO

Phone: (519) 485-4678
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Email: info@rickharper.ca

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