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The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

The mistake that Sharon and I both made is we never set any boundaries.  (Ozzy Osbourne)

You cannot reason with someone who is being unreasonable.

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

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Research on Teens Attitudes

 

 

Reginald Bibby (a  noted Canadian sociologist from the University of Lethbridge) has been traccking the thoughts and beliefs of Canadian teenagers for nearly 30 years. His findings are encouraging as the majority of teens:

  • are not causing undue problems at home
  • have compassion
  • are not in extreme turmoil
  • are honest and polite
  • are not deeply disturbed
  • are forgiving
  • are not totally at the mercy of their impulses
  • are respectful
  • are not overly rebellious
  • are pleasant
  • are not opposed to parental values
  • care about their future
  • are not in trouble with the law
  • do well in school
  • are not seriously abusing drugs and alcohol
  • agree that sex should be associated with meaningful ties
  • expect to get married
  • expect to stay married to the same person for life
  • are opposed to extramarital sex

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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Phone: (519) 485-4678
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“We are foster parents who took in a 13 year old girl (going on 18!) and she ran us through the wringer. Rick helped us learn how to set limits that made the difference.”

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