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Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Whining and crying are employed by kids for the purpose of getting something. If it works, then it was worth the effort and will be repeated.

"Cutting" is a visible sign to the world that you are hurting.

The more 2 parents differ in their approaches to discipline, the more likely it leads to trouble for the child.

Children mimic well. They catch what they see better than they follow what they hear.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

Hurt people hurt people.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

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Columbine High School

COLUMBINE HIGH SCHOOL 1999
– the two perpetrators (both committed suicide)
                                    – one was being treated for psychiatric disorder
                                    – both in trouble with the law
                                    – both were socially isolated “losers”
                                    – both had been bullied
                                    – both enduring pain
This was a big story in 1999 but it is not the biggest story – most teens suffer alone, invisibly and their eventual suicides never make to TV news
 
THE ISSUE SHOULD BE – CAN WE PREVENT OTHER “TICKING TIME BOMBS”
 
A typical high school of 1000 students
                  – 180 have thoughts of suicide
                  – 50 make an attempt

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