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The challenge of adolescence is to balance the right of the parents to feel they are in charge with the need of the adolescent to gain independence.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

It is what we say and do when we're angry that creates the very model our children will follow when dealing with their own frustrations.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

"Parents aren't the cause of ADHD, but they are part of the solution." (Kenny Handleman, M.D.)

Early intervention is always better than crisis management - but it is never too late to do the right thing.

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Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 4)

 

 

The Goofy

Parents with a latent theatrical talent find this method quite successful. In it, the parent clowns, makes faces, dances around, sings ridiculous songs, falls down, or performs whatever slapstick antics come to mind. Not only is the child distracted, but she may even laugh at seeing the ordinarily reserved adult acting human (or at least human in the sense that Bozo is human).

This technique is especially effective for the parent who reacts emotionally to tantrums, because it allows the parent to rechanne
l the urge to scream into more acceptable (however odd) behaviour.

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+ Behaviour Management (now available online)

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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