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Hurt people hurt people.

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

Many clinicians find it easier to tell parents their child has a brain-based disorder than suggest parenting changes. Jennifer Harris (psychiatrist)

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

A tantruming toddler is a little ball of writhing muscle and incredible strength. It's like trying to carry a greased pig past a slop bucket.

When a child is disregulated - is the time parents need to be regulated.

Simple rules adhered to when children are young can prevent more serious problems later.

If it  was going to be easy to raise kids, it never would have started with something called "labour".

Adolescence can be the cruelest place on earth. It can really be heartless.  ( Tori Amos)

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

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Tactics for Temper Tantrums (part 4)

 

 

The Goofy

Parents with a latent theatrical talent find this method quite successful. In it, the parent clowns, makes faces, dances around, sings ridiculous songs, falls down, or performs whatever slapstick antics come to mind. Not only is the child distracted, but she may even laugh at seeing the ordinarily reserved adult acting human (or at least human in the sense that Bozo is human).

This technique is especially effective for the parent who reacts emotionally to tantrums, because it allows the parent to rechanne
l the urge to scream into more acceptable (however odd) behaviour.

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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A program for children with reading problems

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+ A Guided Tour of ADHD (now available online)

This workshop will present the facts, myths, misconceptions, controversy and […]

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