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Some hope their children will be like sponges soaking up the truth and wisdom imparted by their parents. However appealing this philosophy might be, it seldom seems to catch on with their children.

Being a parent of a teenager can cure a person of narcissism.

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Setting limits teaches your children valuable skills they will use the rest of their lives. One day, they will report to a job where their ability to follow rules will dictate their success.

Children fare better when expectations on them are clear and firm.

"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

The teenage years require a delicate balance between the young person's need to gain independence, and the parent's need to retain authority.

We should not medicate the boys so they fit the school; we should change the school to fit the boy. (Leonard Sax, M.D. Ph.D)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

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Parenting a FASD Infant

The primary developmental task  of all infants is to develop trust (in self and in others). Failure to develop “trust arrests development in all other areas. This task is immeasurably more complicated when the child has FASD.  The development of “trust” is facilitated by the following guidelines: a) CONSISTENCY – the child will benefit from high quality care from the same caregiver in the same                     […]

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Trauma in Children

It is estimated that 40% of North American children will have at least one potentially traumatizing experience by the time they are 18 years old including: – death of a parent or sibling – ongoing abuse – physical, mental, sexual – serious accident – natural disaster – witnessing domestic violence – violent crime How adults respond to children during and after traumatic events can make an enormous difference in the eventual outcome – both for […]

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Teen Issues 1

Parents of teenagers face numerous issues and struggles. It is no wonder they become discouraged, overwhelmed, angry or confused. Rick has ideas how to help.  disrespectful attitude towards parents, family and others challenges requests or rules self-absorbed unable to see things from another’s perspective lazy and careless about responsibilities has a negative attitude toward school is emotionally withdrawn and distant picks friends of whom parents disapprove erupts in anger for minor reasons lacks motivation for […]

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Young & Bipolar

YOUNG & BIPOLAR   Bipolar = episodes of extraordinary energy and racing grandiose thoughts alternating with periods of    deep, perplexing depression (manic depressive)                     Manic state:                                     – great energy                                     – unrealistic “highs”                                     – go without sleep for days                                     – rapid speech, flipping topics                                     – intensely focus on activities or projects to the detriment of everything else                                     – marked increase in sexual interests- risky sex,  masturbating                                     – […]

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Tantrums at Various Ages

0 to 8 months Infants less than 8 months old do not have “temper tantrums” Crying or fussing is their way of communicating a need to you, whether it be hunger, diaper change, nap, change of position, or they simply don’t feel well. You should respond to your baby and attempt to identify the problem and “fix” it. Next post will look at tantrums for children 9 months old to 18 months.

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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“Our daughter was the joy of our life until she turned 13, then all hell broke loose. Rick helped us understand what was happening to her and we made some adjustments that helped us get through it. She’s now in University and doing well.”

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