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"To be a man, a boy must see a man."  (J.R. Moehringer)

Removing a child from a traumatic environment does not remove the trauma from the child's memory.

The best inheritance  parents can give their children is a few minutes of their time each day.

Parenting style matters - a lot!

Hurt people hurt people.

The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. (Peggy O'Mara)

It's more effective to reward your child for being "good" (appropriate) than to punish him for being "bad" (inappropriate).

If you (parents) tend to overreact to your child's misbehaviour - your child learns that he can't trust you. Mom, Dad, stay regulated!

Parents are the external regulator for kids who cannot regulate themselves.

Relationships matter:  change comes through forming trusting relationships. People, not programs change people.

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Young & Bipolar

YOUNG & BIPOLAR   Bipolar = episodes of extraordinary energy and racing grandiose thoughts alternating with periods of    deep, perplexing depression (manic depressive)                     Manic state:                                     – great energy                                     – unrealistic “highs”                                     – go without sleep for days                                     – rapid speech, flipping topics                                     – intensely focus on activities or projects to the detriment of everything else                                     – marked increase in sexual interests- risky sex,  masturbating                                     – […]

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Tantrums at Various Ages

0 to 8 months Infants less than 8 months old do not have “temper tantrums” Crying or fussing is their way of communicating a need to you, whether it be hunger, diaper change, nap, change of position, or they simply don’t feel well. You should respond to your baby and attempt to identify the problem and “fix” it. Next post will look at tantrums for children 9 months old to 18 months.

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Diagnostic Criteria for ADD/ADHD

The following is a summary of the criteria in DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) and describes what doctors look for when diagnosing ADD or ADHD. A. INATTENTION ( the individual must display 6 or more of these characteristics) makes careless mistakes difficulty sustaining attention doesn’t seem to listen does not finish schoolwork, chores or duties difficulty organizing tasks and activities avoids tasks that require sustained mental effort easily distracted forgetful and/or B. […]

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Parenting a FASD Toddler

The main developmental tasks for a toddler are: – to learn he is a separate person – to learn his body is his own – to learn his ideas and feelings have value Life becomes increasingly frustrating for the toddler as the demands and expectations placed on him increase. He will discover that he is unable to do many of the things he wants to do himself eg. feed, dress himself, etc.) Guidelines for toddlers […]

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Lori’s note

Lori’s psychiatrist asked her to write something describing her life: “Everybody is hurt sometime in his or her life. For me it started with my parents. But let me start further back. I was adopted in 1986 by my parents. In elementary school, people were not very nice to me. They spread rumours about me that I was a lesbian, which by the way, I’m not. Anyway, I had very few friends and was what […]

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Workshops

+ Behaviour Management

This full day or 2 evening workshop will introduce you […]

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+ Lick Your Kids

  “Lick Your Kids” (figuratively not literally) (2 hours) First […]

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+ A Parent’s Guide to the Teenage Brain

  A teenager’s brain is not just an adult brain […]

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+ Reading Rescue

A program for children with reading problems

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+ Taming a Toddler

Many parents wonder what hit them when their sweet little baby turns into an unreasonable toddler – ideas for dealing with mealtime, bedtime, temper tanturms, toilet training, noncompliance, etc.

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